Search Results: was i being impatient

Parent - Someone in Parent may use body language that is angry or impatient such as finger-pointing, fist-clenching, "in your face". The language of the Parent may be judgmental, critical or patronizing.

Adult - You can tell that someone is in their Adult when they are showing interest and pay attention, they are not defensive or need the be threatening in any way. A conversation with someone in Adult is reasonable, straight-forward and oriented towards solving problems. They tend to ask for information before forming opinions, such as asking "why", "what", "how", "who", "where" and "when". Individuals working from Adult use logic statements - true, false, probably, possibly. They don't force their opinions on you as if talking to a child but will offer their own thoughts in a non-dogmatic way: "I think", "I realize", "I see", "I believe".

Child - An individual who is in their Child often behaves more emotionally than they do at other times, which could be sad, angry, despairing, fearful, depressed. They may use the body language of a child, such as squirming, giggling, whining, shrugging, teasing. There are many phrases that point to the Child being present, the person tends to use simple language such as "I want", "I need", "I don't care", "don’t know".

Remember: when you are trying to identify ego states words are only part of the overall message.

55% is body language
38% of meaning is intonation
Only 7% of communication is the actual words spoken

For the past 18 years, I have had an extremely terrible diet; nothing healthy and constituting only on processed/ sugar foods. My parents tried to feed me fruits and vegetables, but with me being such an unreasonable child, they eventually gave up and just fed me things that would shut me up! I don't blame them; I was a brat and should have known better as I got older.

Another thing I should mention is I never did any sports/physical activities growing up either. The only time I did sports was if it was part of my physical education in school and even then I would pretend to be ill to get out of doing sports. Couple years ago: I had a realisation; I hated myself and needed to become healthier. I essentially fasted for months: only eating at meal times and eating very little at that. I usually woke up late (9-11am) so I would skip breakfast and wait until lunch.

While I did lose a lot of weight, I still wasn't healthy and I certainly wasn't desirable/strong. So I came to my senses and made big changes in my diet; eating healthier foods and I started attending the gym 4 times a week for the past 7 months... But have made little progress in such an amount of time.

Granted i'm an impatient man and I know very little about how the fit lifestyle works. But I started wondering why wasn't I seeing results? Was I doing something wrong? My cousin came up with an interesting theory: that because of my unhealthy past, it would take me longer to see results than others. While I could see that that being true, I still have my doubts...

Is it true? Will it take me longer to see results because I was so unhealthy in the past?