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If you are not an animal lover, this question may seem rather silly. That's okay. If you are an animal lover, you understand.

My girlfriend and I acquired two cats during the 15 months we lived together. The older cat is about 18-20 months old and the younger cat is about 15 months old. The older cat is more bonded with my ex and the younger cat is more bonded with me, but both cats are bonded with each other. These are the cats I'm talking about:

When my ex moved out, she went where she could not have pets, so I have kept them. My ex comes around about once a week to spend time with them. My ex knows that I have started dating again and, when I get to the point of dating someone exclusively, I will need to cut my contact with the ex. She hopes to move again soon to a place where she can have pets. I feel a bond with Miss Ana but I want her to stay with Miss Kitty, so I will let my ex take both of the cats. And I will not visit them because spending time with an ex just gets in the way of moving forward.

Have you ever been in this situation? What did you do? How did your decision affect your ability to move forward with your life?

Around March, 2015, I had a first date with Susan. Unfortunately, she had a family emergency a few days later and she went out of town for several weeks. In the meanwhile, I started dating someone else, I thought they would be a good match for me, and when Susan returned, I truthfully explained what had happened and I told her that I wanted to date the other girl exclusively. In retrospect, it was a bad decision.

I recently saw Susan on POF, started messaging her, and she was receptive to the idea of meeting for dinner. Our first date happens to be on Valentine's Day! (I recently posted another question about how to handle a first date on Valentine's Day.) Every good woman should receive flowers on Valentine's Day, so this is what I will give her:

It feels a bit peculiar seeing her a second time five years after the first date, but my memories of her are all good and I am excited about seeing her again. I should have ditched the other girl and kept dating Susan in 2015, but that's another story!

What's the longest gap you have had between a first and second date?