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So my boyfriend has cheated on my in the beginning of our relationship. He was in another relationship and had sex with her. He also was asking other girls to be his girlfriend and made out with another girl while dating me. He had phone sex. I caught him and now he is changing his behavior. He went to therapy and gave me access to his accounts. The thing that worries me is now he isn’t putting any effort in the relationship. He won’t call me iniate any conversations first. Won’t fly out to see me because he’s saying he’s broke and doesn’t have the money. He doesn’t iniate anything sexual and he always has an excuse. He said he’s withdrawing because of how much I mistrust him. He did this to his ex girlfriend too. He said he did to her because he didn’t care and that he’s doing it to me because I’m mistreating him and making him feel like I’m going to abandon him. Should I trust by now or am I giving good reasons not to trust him?

So I’ve been friends with this guy for about three years, when I first met him I instantly felt a really strong connection. I would consider the majority of our interactions pretty flirty the first few years. We have never even kissed but for some reason I keep getting mixed signals from him. Like I could be completely delusional, but I just wanted to see if it’s all in my head or not. He used to always rest his forehead on mine or on my face when we are at a party and while he was talking to me. He also used to grab my hand in social settings and just hold onto it for a few minutes. He’s been the one that was there to comfort me during a hard time. And always used to tell me how he loved how I’m always genuine and myself. Well anyways he has a girlfriend now, so obviously I’d never do anything to screw that up. But he constantly cheats on her and then tries to tell me it’s because she’s crazy and controlling. Yet he’s stayed in this relationship for two years. So obviously it’s bullshit. So with some of that background I guess I’m just wondering if he just sees me as a “bud” or maybe something more? I’m just confused because he doesn’t text me or try to see me but when I go out I always catch him staring at me, and recently when he saw me at a bar he grabbed my hand and held it while he was talking to his friend. I walked away but sometimes these actions make me wonder if he actually has a thing for me or not? Also he won’t let me meet his girlfriend, even though he has let girls he’s cheated with meet her. What’s up with that? I’m just confused tbh