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My boyfriend's dog (golden retreiver) is super super super needy. He jumps up on people, begs and will steal food if you don't defend it, he barks, he whines, he literally crawls on top of you & puts his face on top of yours to demand attention. He has never been put on ANY kind of schedule (eating or walking schedule) which I know is not the dog's fault, but it creates more needy behavior. Whining 24/7 and having to pee (without being able to hold it) about every 2 hours. He's two years old. he CAN physically hold it, but he's spoiled so everyone has to work their day around his schedule (or lack thereof).

He is jealous of my boyfriend. too. if he kisses me or cuddles me, the dog will claw his way (i have the scratch marks to prove it) into the middle of us.

he sheds everywhere & I used to have non-shedding dogs so this drives me absolutely nuts!

My issue is, that while i like dogs, i'm not a head over heels dog lover. I don't want to pet him 24/7 like the dog believes he's entitled to. I don't want to have to turn up the TV/radio/whatever to drown out the sound of his incessant whining for attention. I don't want to pay attention to him when I'm driving & he tries to get into the front seat (distracting and dangerous). I don't want to have his head all over my lap or arm because he's trying to force my hand on top of his head for a pat when I'm dressed professionally for work. Miraculously lint rollers don't do much to help at all and i really WISH they would.

Honestly, i don't like the dog. he's poorly trained. My boyfriend gets visibly and audibly annoyed and makes me feel like a jerk when I don't want to deal with the dog. Example: I was going somewhere with the dog and got flustered cus the dog was trying to get in the front seat and had his head up in my face. My boyfriend got pissed and said "ugh nevermind, i'll do it cus i know you're just going to FREAK out. that's just how you are with my dog"(with a huge eye roll). am i a jerk?

Girls are taught from a young age that when a boy bullies you or treats you badly its only because he likes you or has a crush on you.

In middle school, high school, and college girls are told the same thing. "He's in that awkward stage and doesn't know how to express himself". "Boys will be boys", "He's just joking" "He's not serious."

We are taught that when a guy is being mean or bad to us, that We're the ones who are overreacting and its only a mans way of showing affection towards us. Girls are told and taught that they're being uptight or misunderstanding signals.

Then when some women reach adult hood they continue to date men who insult them, bully them, and treat them badly, because society taught us that when guys insult you, and berate you, its because they like you.

I've seen the same advice on given on this site by men and women. I've seen the same men and women tell girls that a guy being abusive, or rude is just a sign that he likes her, but if its an older woman, she's an idiot who should know better.

So what do you all think? Do you think we should tell girls that a boy insulting her, bullying her, and being rude to her is just a sign of affection?

Also why dose the dynamic change into adulthood? When do the insults, bullying, and rude behavior transition from a boy just liking a girl, to a girl enjoying abuse and only liking jerks? Why is it alright for girls to accept it as children/young adults but not women?

Is there a magic age or number when boys stop being jerks? Or is there a magic age or number when girls are supposed to know when insults, bullying, and rude behavior isn't a way a man shows attraction/affection?

Will you teach this to other girls?

Why do you think we do this?