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So I’ve worked for my company for two years and I’ve known since early on that my boss is really really good friends with the head of HR and part owner of our firm.

But slowly as I got to know more people outside of the office certain things would be mentioned in casual conversations.

During a Fitbit competition I was complaining about the two women always sneaking in extra steps before midnight. A guy told me, well “they” have all those dogs and they have to be walked one at a time. My boss told me she didn’t own dogs.

Finally someone mentioned the HR manager was trying to stall my boss from leaving their house this morning. So I finally ask a friend if they live together and she said yes, she didn’t know that they were in a relationship until a couple of years ago. So she worked for the company for 4 years before someone let her in on the secret.

I feel pretty silly and a bit hurt. I think at least at a basic level maybe not legally but ethically I probably had some right to know about the conflict of Interest.

But mostly I just feel like a fool recalling throughout today all of the times my boss directly lied to me about certain details or concealed details about where she lives, who she went on vacation with and basically everything.

Why keep it secret it does more harm than just letting it come up through the course of conversation. And it isn’t a secret applied consistently, most people know and many actively aide in the cover up.

It really feels like lie by omission and I just feel a little disrespected by the whole charade. Like maybe people I work with felt it was time I should know. HR and my boss both know I found out but didn’t come to talk to me about it.