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We’ve been friends since middle school kind of on and off. Because honestly she (we’ll call her Lauren) used to be very obnoxious and she knows it, and we were in a friend group, the other girls didn’t really like her. Like just me and our other former best friend who she used to be clingy to before I showed up. The other girls were like “yeah she’s mean to us and is rude etc etc” so when we had group hangouts and the two of us weren’t the ones planning it, guess who didn’t make the invite. We kind of drifted in high school, still around each other but I was into musicals and stuff and she’s just very introverted and would just read and not talk to anyone or even try to get involved in a conversation.

The rest of the group stopped talking to me because the girl who acted like the alpha was such a bitch and I called her out on it, next thing you know I was ostracized. By the end of senior year we were like “fuck em” and it was just Lauren and I. I went off to college and made new friends (freshman year was trial and error, but by sophomore year I found great friends for me) but she went to community college and basically didn’t socialize with anyone. She just waited for me to be available to come over, sleep over whatever. It’s like she doesn’t even TRY to make other friends. It’s suffocating.

We are in our early 20’s I graduated college already and she has like another year to go. Whenever we hangout she immediately assumes she can sleepover my place or like insists that I sleepover hers. We’re girls. That means we have to share a bed, and she’s gonna try to cuddle with me and invade my personal space. Speaking of that whenever she sees me she always has to give me a ridiculously long hug, it’s heavy handed and she literally doesn’t let go. I am open to hugs but I’m not this overly affectionate person, I read social cues. She really doesn’t.

I introduced her to my college friends at my grad party and still she just clings to me the whole time! I’m sick of it.

His text:

Is it that, or is it that you actually want someone who would be able to do more with you? Like go out with you during daytime etc

I've replied with:
No, I like that we meet up once or twice a week. Same with the sleepovers, who wouldn't wanna wake up next to you!
Doing the occasional random non sexual activity is nice but I know your time is restricted.
I don't want there to be a rigid routine or any pressure with what we do. But sometimes I feel like I shouldn't suggest things incase its not something you would be ok with. So if you feel you need to set some boundries, now would be the time to mention them. Including not doing non sexual activities

Good or bad response from me?