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My boyfriend of three years and I broke up, for like four days. It was a hard time and I was very upset and hurt. Long story short, we talked and worked it out and we are back together. by the way, we have lived together for a majority of our relationship. But, once I told my mom and sister, that we are back together they have been so negative. I have been in multiple relationships where I have been hurt and I have listened to them when it comes to it. But now, that I am making my own choice and choosing to stay. They make me feel horrible for it. by the way, he didn’t cheat or anything or done anything horrible to me. We just weren’t really discussing what bothered us in our relationship. Anyways, now that we are back together. It’s been maybe a month or so now, they make me feel horrible for getting back together. My mom keeps saying “you guys argue all the time” when we literally don’t. And even if we did, I don’t tell her everything because of her reaction. I purposely don’t tell her stuff because she will hold onto it and make it a big deal. My mother and my sister also said they’re waiting for our relationship to fail and said that I’m not as strong as a woman as I think I am because we decided to get back together. I get that they’re trying to be protective and such. But they can also be supportive even though then don’t agree with the decision. And every time I ask them to be more supportive they start yelling and say that they are being supportive but continue to tell me how much of a failure my relationship is going to be and how i should listen to them and leave the relationship still. It’s almost like they’re mad at me for not making the decision they want me to make. I have been dating this man for three years and I am not going to just breakup because my mom and sister will think negative things. I’ll do it if I want to. And I’m 25 and he’s 24. But am I just misinterpreting their words or does it sound like they’re trying to control my decision?

I agree with you reap what you sow. I think if you work more hours/contribute more, you should get paid more.

But it seems like in Canada, we are more into the "needs" definition. Apparently, feminists think working mothers should be paid equal or more than single women/men. They argue that working moms can't work longer hours due to children.

I disagree with this. Working mothers chose to have children. Single women aren't always single by choice. I think employers should disregard personal circumstances and just pay employees according to hours worked or by difficulty of the duties performed.