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I don't feel jealous. My boyfriend has always told me how he'd be jealous and punch any other guy that tried to kiss me. My boyfriend is also very attractive and there have been other girls that like him, but he's veryyy loyal. He introduces me to all of his girl friends and wants us to become good friends. Though when I talk to some of them, it's very obvious they're smitten with my boyfriend, despite the fact that he seems completely oblivious.

I've pointed it out to him that certain girls actually had a huge crush on him (in a teasing playful manner), and he got all blushy, smiley, and said "nooo, they're weird, and anyway I have the best most beautiful girlfriend in the world". Then I'd continue to tease him about what a girl magnet heartbreaker he is. He liked that, and was even more affectionate and sweet than usual afterwards.

It just worries me that I've never felt jealousy, even upon meeting the girls that obviously have feelings for my boyfriend and probably tried to flirt with him at one point. I feel no jealousy when he points out another pretty girl to me either on the street or online. I think jealousy is an ugly emotion, and I'm actually sort of glad that I don't get jealous...but then again, if my love were really real, wouldn't I be a little more selfish about him?

If I'm really honest, I wouldn't even care if he liked another girl...or even kissed her...as long as he liked me best, told me about it and decided he liked my kisses better as a result of doing it. I've told him this, and he told me that even though there are lots of attractive girls in the world, his kisses and flirting would always be reserved for me alone.

We've been together for almost four years now. Is it because he constantly proves that he's utterly loyal...or maybe I'm arrogant or something... that I don't really believe anyone else could be a threat? In fact, I'm sort of always interested in what girls like him as a chance to compete with them, learn new little things that impress him, and keep my charm skills sharp.

The thing is - it makes me feel sort of special when he acts a little jealous, and I wonder if I'm offending him somehow by never acting jealous.

So what do you guys think: do you need to feel a little healthy jealousy to prove that you genuinely love someone? Do boyfriends like it when their girls act a little jealous?