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I know that's not the majority but are there really cases like that?

Lets say the parents tried everything and spankings too but nothing worked in the end. Not even a belt, NOTHING. Their child still grew up as a dysfunctional adult and continues to go down the wrong path. Are there cases like that too?

Context:
Throughout my entire childhood my father was always the dominant figure in my household. It wasn't aggressive or violent, he just laid down the law and everyone followed it - he was in charge - no question. He would enforce said rules by spanking my sister, myself, and even my mother, more or less depending on the offense - from questioning his authority, to breaking a lamp, to doing the laundry badly (more for my mother), to getting bad grades (more for my sister and I).

As a child it never seemed odd to me, I just assumed that was just the way families were. Seeing my mother spanked by my father in front of my sister and I the same way he spanked us just didn't affect me all that much. A friend I invited over once in around 6th Grade was the one who broke it to me that most families don't do it that way.

I would like to make it quite clear my family wasn't abusive. Not only are my parents still together and love each other, but my father is a wonderful man and I hold nothing against him. It was just our family dynamic. I haven't really had a platform to ask exactly how common this was before now, so I figured this was my chance.

Question:
So did your father have the dominant role in your household as a child? To what degree? If not, which parent took charge, and how? Were you and your siblings spanked, and if so, was your less dominant parent also spanked?

I'm not trying to excuse it but that did clouded my judgment and morals during my childhood years.

It got to the point I was already a bad seed by then. I was beyond a spanking. Punishment would have only gotten me even angrier and more violent than ever. I was steps away from becoming a real monster until intervention came. I just recently found out a grandfather I never knew and a couple other ancestors had mental illnesses as well as personality disorders. One of them was a violent convict and another a child molester.

So basically, I had the genetic make-up (the predisposition to act out if placed in a bad environment) and on top of that was exposed to sexual contents, abuse and a bunch of disturbing things at a young age. As a result I lashed out on things and kids weaker than me and started doing bad stuff at an early age. I suppose my case was both nature and nurture. I have a bad nature in the family and it got combined with a bad nurture too.