Search Results: the honest approach

*based on a question that is still in the recent feed*

Everybody knows that I am up-front about things that might cause confrontation. I'm not one to sugarcoat things. This sometimes gets me into A LOT of trouble lol, but I prefer to be honest and people know that if they ask or approach me about something that they should be ready to take it because I'm not gonna cover it up or "try to make them happy" by what I say. At the same time, this is a GOOD thing because they'll ask me before they'll ask anybody else. I like having the honest reputation instead of being one to suck up to people.
I am also one to stand up for myself, so if it causes confrontation then
1) They shouldn't have asked me if you didn't want my opinion or the truth (whether they asked a factual question or for an opinion matters).
2) I'm not gonna suck up to anyone.

So overall, I don't suck up to people. Regardless of how much confrontation comes with it, I'm not afraid of it and I'm not going to lie to prevent it. If somebody thinks they won't like what I say, then they probably shouldn't ask me to begin with.

On the flip side of that coin, I wouldn't want anybody lying to me either, or sucking up to me. The whole point in me asking them is to get the truth, or I wouldn't be asking. If they are one who lies to keep peace, I'll get that they are dishonest and won't associate with them anymore.

I also think a lot of people don't realize that honesty, in the long run, keeps down confrontation.