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- She was always smiley, flirty and close to me. Like touching to get my attention or throwing things at me, taking things from me, choosing to talk to me over others in a group etc.
- Then when I was avoiding her in a shy way and hinted I like her, she did a really shy smile. It was in a group but when we parted she did a big smile and waved. She said “I want to be on the left” and her best friend said to her “you just want to be on the left of him.”
- She had always been shy about doing things with me alone making excuses up to this point.
- I then messaged to ask her for a drink at a pub she likes and she replies that Tom mentioned going to x before it closes which we did go to. But she was awkward in person avoiding me. Although it’s worth noting in the texts I called her a friend. I don’t know if that was what made it awkward. Giving her a card calling her a friend did same thing
- she became less awkward in person when I said I don’t see you as anything more than a friend after implying her best friend told me She likes me. She got mad at her friend though & said I don’t know why she’s saying that when she knows I’m not interested in dating.
- following this, she started months of texting me persistently and suggesting things we can do together and we ended up meeting weekly.
- She seemed to get annoyed whenever I call her a friend or mate.
- when around her best friend, she likes to jokingly insult me. She’s likes being around me but when she sees her looking at us and laughing, she distances herself.
- recently I called her a close friend and she started making excuses about meeting. Then I questioned her about it and she seemed to be upset. We started avoiding each other and it was awkward although I could see she wanted to try and make things better too. I tried too by for example taking a long way home for her ( she’d Said she likes before) but think I overcompensated and she felt awkward.
- she has a tendency to get close then distant from me.

- She was being distant as a result of you asking her to go to the pub with you and her making an excuse.
- You tell her you only see her as a friend in response to her best friend saying she likes you.
- She got mad at her best friend saying she knows she’s not interested in dating so doesn’t know why she’s saying all these things.
- For the next 6 months, they started texting regularly, suggesting meets and ended up meeting every week (often more than once a week). She would choose to hang out with him over going to hobby group meets, meetings with friends etc. Everyone thought they were together although she sometimes avoided being too close to him when her best friend was around as she loves gossiping.
- when he called her mate, she got upset saying only guys call each other that.
- He then got clingy and she started becoming distant again.