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I was with my Ex for 6 yrs. We've been apart for 2 yrs. I dated a new guy for a yr, nothing serious. My ex figd I was moving on, so he began seeing someone who is now his GF. Recently, we've been talkin more about our break up. I explained I started dating someone because I didn't think he wanted me back. He explained he moved on because he didn't think I wanted him back! He tells me he still has feelings for me, I do too. We talk daily-phone/text/internet. (which he initiates) We haven't seen each other in a yr. He wants to see me, but I refuse because he has a GF. I don't interfere with his Relationship. I know him pretty well that I can almost bet he's not happy. I just don't understand why he hasn't left her? I know men can be prideful... If you were in this situation would you continue with your new relationship to see where it goes? or Would you take a chance & go back to the one you know you love & have a bond with?

(Our break up wasn't due to cheating or anything like that, it was a stressful time during his life & he needed time to himself)

*Thoughts/Advice appreciated! Thanx!

I am asking this out of curiosity: what does 'cheating' mean to you? I've heard it differs between men and women, and I am wondering if that's true. If generally speaking it is, then it might explain a lot of underlying miscommunications in arguments between couples.

Where do YOU draw the line between "that's fine", "that's insulting (but not technically cheating)", and "that's cheating"?

Note: in the following questions, please consider who "the other person" is to you. That might explain where/why you draw the line. Is "the other person" a random girl/guy you meet who you think is hot? Is this an ex? A best friend? Someone you had a crush on before? Someone who seems interested in you (whether or not you're interested back)? Someone who is openly flirty with you?

If you flirt with someone else, either in front of your partner or behind your partner's back, do you think that's cheating, disrespectful, or just fine?

If you make sexual innuendos (flirt provocatively) with someone else, is that cheating?

If you talk on the phone/text/email/IM, etc. everyday with someone else, is that cheating, disrespectful, or just fine?

If you go on vacation with someone else instead of your partner, do you think that's cheating?

If you hang out with someone else, instead of your partner, and feel closer either emotionally or physically, is that cheating?

If you confide in this other person about fights you and your partner have or other things - things you don't tell your partner for whatever reason - is that cheating?

If you grind on someone else on the dance floor, is that cheating to you? Or disrespectful? Or just fine?

If you go to a strip club, is that cheating? How about if you get a lap dance?

If you touch someone else's boobs, crotch, butt, lips, etc., is that cheating?

If you kiss someone else, do you think that's cheating?

If you have oral sex with someone, do you think that's cheating?

If you sleep with someone else once, is that cheating?

If you sleep with someone else repeatedly, is that cheating?

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For any of the above: how about if your partner does it?

I've been talking to this guy online and he has a bunch of women (some hot, some not) on his my space and face book. He doesn't email them a lot, and I send him notes there too. He was kidding with me one day about being a serial dater because he is afraid of being hurt again (ex cheated), but that doesn't explain all the hanging out with women. I ask about who each one is, and he is upfront about telling me "well, I met so-n-so on match dot com, and it didn't work out but we're friends, and I met so and so here...i haven't talked to her in a while" stuff like that. He like to hang out with women friends, some have boyfriends and he is friends with them too. I just think it's odd that he only has a couple guy friends and doesn't see them much, but he talks to his women friends about their issues and lives. He even dog sits for an ex who is re-married. NO, he is NOT gay. He and I flirt and have had intimate conversations...its clear he likes women sexually. OK...so is he just a wuss or what?