Where do YOU draw the line between "that's fine", "that's insulting (but not technically cheating)", and "that's cheating"?
Note: in the following questions, please consider who "the other person" is to you. That might explain where/why you draw the line. Is "the other person" a random girl/guy you meet who you think is hot? Is this an ex? A best friend? Someone you had a crush on before? Someone who seems interested in you (whether or not you're interested back)? Someone who is openly flirty with you?
If you flirt with someone else, either in front of your partner or behind your partner's back, do you think that's cheating, disrespectful, or just fine?
If you make sexual innuendos (flirt provocatively) with someone else, is that cheating?
If you talk on the phone/text/email/IM, etc. everyday with someone else, is that cheating, disrespectful, or just fine?
If you go on vacation with someone else instead of your partner, do you think that's cheating?
If you hang out with someone else, instead of your partner, and feel closer either emotionally or physically, is that cheating?
If you confide in this other person about fights you and your partner have or other things - things you don't tell your partner for whatever reason - is that cheating?
If you grind on someone else on the dance floor, is that cheating to you? Or disrespectful? Or just fine?
If you go to a strip club, is that cheating? How about if you get a lap dance?
If you touch someone else's boobs, crotch, butt, lips, etc., is that cheating?
If you kiss someone else, do you think that's cheating?
If you have oral sex with someone, do you think that's cheating?
If you sleep with someone else once, is that cheating?
If you sleep with someone else repeatedly, is that cheating?
For any of the above: how about if your partner does it?
Most Helpful Opinions
I have had physically cheated and also been cheated on by and with partners that were supposed to be exclusive. I have also have had emotional cheating and have experienced my partner having emotional cheating. This was so much worse. My ex wife fell in love with someone she hadn't slept with. Confessed to me and then we separated. We were never the same and divorced. I dated someone i loved and slept with a one night stand while traveling and i felt amazing guilt for hurting someone i loved so much. I value emotional bonds much more than physical and have come to terms that saying that woman or her saying that guy is hot is so much better than her wanting to spend time sharing her feelings with someone else...
funniest quote i ever heard from someone i just started dating.
"oral is like handshakes, really no big deal"
my immediate reply without missing a beat, "thanks for that info, i won't be kissing you or shaking your hand"
worst thing i ever hear from my ex wife " i think we shoudl take a break, there is someone else and I'm confused" she was adamant nothing had happened and as it turns out he didn't want to be with her once she left me, but she no longer felt the same about me and we never were the same again. Got back together for 6 months and ended in ugly divorce.
physical or emotional both not good. Emotional usually worse in my opinion.