I am asking this out of curiosity: what does 'cheating' mean to you? I've heard it differs between men and women, and I am wondering if that's true. If generally speaking it is, then it might explain a lot of underlying miscommunications in arguments between couples.
Where do YOU draw the line between "that's fine", "that's insulting (but not technically cheating)", and "that's cheating"?
Note: in the following questions, please consider who "the other person" is to you. That might explain where/why you draw the line. Is "the other person" a random girl/guy you meet who you think is hot? Is this an ex? A best friend? Someone you had a crush on before? Someone who seems interested in you (whether or not you're interested back)? Someone who is openly flirty with you?
If you flirt with someone else, either in front of your partner or behind your partner's back, do you think that's cheating, disrespectful, or just fine?
If you make sexual innuendos (flirt provocatively) with someone else, is that cheating?
If you talk on the phone/text/email/IM, etc. everyday with someone else, is that cheating, disrespectful, or just fine?
If you go on vacation with someone else instead of your partner, do you think that's cheating?
If you hang out with someone else, instead of your partner, and feel closer either emotionally or physically, is that cheating?
If you confide in this other person about fights you and your partner have or other things - things you don't tell your partner for whatever reason - is that cheating?
If you grind on someone else on the dance floor, is that cheating to you? Or disrespectful? Or just fine?
If you go to a strip club, is that cheating? How about if you get a lap dance?
If you touch someone else's boobs, crotch, butt, lips, etc., is that cheating?
If you kiss someone else, do you think that's cheating?
If you have oral sex with someone, do you think that's cheating?
If you sleep with someone else once, is that cheating?
If you sleep with someone else repeatedly, is that cheating?
For any of the above: how about if your partner does it?
- Flirting, innuendo, confiding in, hanging out with, kissing, dirty touching, or sleeping with someone elseVote A
- Flirting, innuendo, kissing, dirty touching, or sleeping with someone elseVote B
- Confiding in, kissing, dirty touching, or sleeping with someone elseVote C
- Kissing, dirty touching, or sleeping with someone elseVote D
- Just sleeping with someone elseVote E
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Wow that is a big list.
I would consider it cheating if my girlfriend was making sexual innuendos with somebody of the opposite sex if she was getting turned on by it. If she was just really joking it wouldn't matter much to me.
Any physical contact besides hugging I would also consider cheating. Hand holding or touching the opposite sex in any other way would make me feel like she is flirting with another person and enjoying their company way too much.6