Polls: Break Up & Divorce

I mean initiating the messaging

You're breaking up, but you don't want to do it in person. Instead, you send a text message.

Now the real question... How long should that breakup text be? What should it say?

Please vote in the poll, and offer an opinion.

Hey I just wanted to say thank you for being a great girlfriend the past year. I’ll always have great memories from our time together (whether it’s our hot tub with the bugs in Wales, neon painting in the cavern, playing Skyrim, picking out vinyls for listening parties, feeding birds or playing around in museums with your creative mind). I’ve learnt so much about myself and what I want and need in relationships especially given my lack of experience (not counting non serious 20s ones, I’d say you were my first proper adult relationship) and I’ve learnt how to take better photos. 😜

Even though it didn’t work out in the end (and I think on reflection it was the right decision), Im grateful you gave me the opportunity to get to know you and be a part of your life and purple haven & helping me find a bit more confidence :) I hope the next chapter of your life brings you much joy and happiness and ultimately, I hope you find what you’re looking for :) It’s up to you but I hope we can part on good terms and Im happy to keep in touch if you are :) but for now, I bid you farewell.

A message just thanking them for great memories and for letting you be a part of heir life etc even if it didn’t work out in the end. And just a last message wishing them well.

Like are there obvious signs of tension and it’s obvious to both partners that the relationship is clearly not working out or is it less obvious?

Like they’re planning future events and telling each other about how great the other is up until the last minute?

Ok me and this girl met when we were about 20 and had a great relationship for 8 years. I started drinking and it lead to us breaking up. She started dating a guy 2 weeks later I introduced her to. They lasted less than a year and we got back together exactly a year after separating.

I ended up finding pictures of her in sexy outfits and nudes on our old camera one day and some sexting stuff while going through our stuff in a closet I was cleaning out. I didn't tell her I found them. I spent the next 3 years trying to get her to send me dirty pictures. She broke up with me again and we separated for 3 years and then ended up back together again.

we've been back together over 10 years now and I have randomly tried a lot of times to get her to send me sexy stuff or sext with me, nothing has worked. This finally came to a head. I got tired of trying and getting nothing. We got into a pretty big argument about it and during the argument I find out that she thinks I'm talking about pictures she sent to another guy she dated right after we broke up the second time.

So both guys she dated right after we split she sent nudes and sexted with but whenever I have tried to get her to in the past I get excuses like she's worried about sending them because someone could get them for whatever reason which is all just excuses to me. So What, did you send them with pigeons the last 2 times.

Over the years this has gotten under my skin trying and never getting anything back. I usually have tried when I've been out of town for work or something. When I've tried sexting with her the responses have been either nothing at all or something that was just lame or her saying she didn't know what to say.

She says that she's been more sexually adventurous with me than anyone else ever. Our sex life I used to think was good but now I'm second guessing it. I usually make sure she gets off first and then she's in a hurry to get it over with. why is there no desire or lust there for her?