Polls: Break Up & Divorce

Moving on in this case doesn’t necessarily mean you’re ready to start dating again, just basically that you’re over your ex and is not still hung up on them (so no more contacting them to get their attention, stalking their social media, etc) or even looking to reconcile.

I am on my periods and have been facing a lot of mood swings lately so i was feeling too low and wanted to talk but he was not giving much attention so i kind of decided to disturb his sleep and take a little revenge but he broke up and after breaking up he went back to sleep

Also i told him that if he breaks up i won't patchup.

He will surely call back and try to patchup with me once he wakes up then should i patchup with him?

In tv shows and movies it's usually jus gone fight or reason to divorce. They never get and communicate. Just I want thing and if your not on board then good bye!

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I just spoke to someone who thinks it is always one gender’s fault when a divorce happens. Do you think he is correct?

This also applies to gfs! If they want it early on in the relationship!

Hear several of my friend friends say this and I fully agree. Years latter maybe not but really on it is a huge red flag! True or false!

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Or would you break it off because it would be awkward (because you don't like them in return)?

What would you do in that situation? Is it immature to say no when one's crush asks if you want to do a certain activity together, when your main reason is to avoid solitary interaction with them? Or would having the opportunity to have someone to share your hobby with be enough to distract you from unrequited feelings, and so you'd say yes, as you focus on the activity and not who you do the activity with?

A genie asks you which one you choose. You have to choose either. Or else you get the burning 💩

I'm 40, and recently broke up with my boyfriend (47) of 11 months. We had hundreds of days filled with highs, he is social, charming, has a lot of friends, loves going out, having fun. He was very sweet, romantic and caring during these times. There were red flags that I tried to rationalize- binge drinking multiple times a week, crippling debt from student loans and cc (>200K), no career motivation and health issues that started popping up (probably from drinking). We had 6-7 arguments over the last year, that I thought were heated but never out of control (and always under the influence of alcohol). The next day we'd both apologize and move on. I realized he'd get overwhelmed then, and sometimes even at the smallest disagreement or when I needed to vent (when both were sober). I showed concern about his health and debt and the stupid fights that happened while drinking. Asked him to cut back, but he was super defensive and in denial. Fast forward to the new year, we were going to move in together and he was going to propose. He suddenly started acting disinterested and cold and last week suddenly declares he doesn't want to move in together. I'm taken aback and ask why, and he brings up the fights and that it's too frequent. I ask if he's overwhelmed with all his issues, and he admits he is, but keeps blaming me for the fights. I say I'll work on being more understanding and only bring up stuff while we're both sober and in a calm way, but I can't change the past, only do better in the future. He's reluctant to accept my words and I finally ask in frustration if he wants to break up. He says he doesn't know what wants, but needs time on his own to think. Over the next 3 weeks, I don't hear from him and he ignores my call and texts, forcing me to text and email him an official breakup note. Rationally, I know he's not good for me in his current state, but my heart still loves him. I want to know if a man like this can change. Does he deserve a second chance?