What do you consider “cheating” in a relationship? Does your view of cheating differ from that of other people?

[gayesblog]

Is thinking about cheating the same as cheating to you? I just want to see your opinions :) Does your view of cheating differ from that of other people?

[simon]

Cheating is generally seen as a breach of trust in a relationship, and it's a serious matter. However, the nuances of what constitutes cheating can vary among individuals and cultures.

Some might see emotional infidelity as significant as a physical one, while others might draw a firmer line at physical actions. It's like a personal code, you know? The key is establishing clear boundaries with your partner and making sure you're both on the same page.

But yeah, bottom line, cheating is a betrayal, and it stings no matter how you slice it. Trust is a precious thing, and when it's broken, it can be a tough road to repair. So, how do you feel about it? Let's talk it out! 😊

[Kaneki05]

No thinking about cheating is not cheating. If I thought about cheating on my test but never did one can't say I cheated on the test because clearly I didn't.

Cheating is for me is looking for someone else to replace me with, they don't love me or want me anymore and they are wanting for someone else and acting upon it.

But it's easier to explain what I have exceptions to what I don't class as cheating.
Such as same sex, if I get with a girl who's BI and she wants to have sex with another girl this does not bother me. Now if said girl is replacing me that's an issue.
I don't view for money as cheating, this of course goes to say I am a-okay with dating a pornstar or something not that I would ever be so lucky lol.

I also don't find anything to be cheating if we are just dating, not that I've ever had that mind you. Mine have always been just jump right into it. But if we are just dating and I am not her boyfriend and she's not my girlfriend I for sure don't see it as cheating if she's dating around and etc.
Because we simply aren't together yet.
I add this point because yeah some people get upset by that for some reason, they say it's cheating before even getting together.

[Joshydavid25]

"Is thinking about cheating the same as cheating to you?"

It's not the same, but it's damn near close.. If you're thinking about it, that means given the right opportunity you might do it.. Unless it was just a fleeting thought.. But, I would say as soon as they start connecting emotionally in some sort of romantic way, that that is cheating..

[Joshydavid25]

Thanks for MHO!

[DaveJord]

Right if thinking about it waws cheating then I would be the worst SO ever.

[Joshydavid25]

@DaveJord Once or twice is not bad at all, or fleeting thoughts.. But if it's constantly in your brain, or you like thinking of being with other people a lot... "As a man thinks, so is he"..

[DaveJord]

I am single, first and I was married 24 year without cheating... but I thought about it. Thats all I am saying.

[Joshydavid25]

@DaveJord Nothing in this world is absolute.. You may have had thoughts and didn't act on them, but that wouldn't mean others didn't.. I also said given the right opportunity..

[RainbowMarinade]

Thinking about cheating isn’t cheating. But why are you even thinking about it?
Something’s already wrong with your relationship if you’re thinking about cheating.

[IslaTheWitch]

I agree with physical contact. For me tbh almost any physical contact :)

But also what I feel and think. It's not visible, but it can also cause harm.

[BLP11520]

A few kisses?

[IslaTheWitch]

@BLP11520 What would be a reason for kissing another man if I'm in a relationship?

What reason could my partner have to kiss another woman if he is with me?

[BLP11520]

I am thinking if it happens and you back off, like oops!

[BLP11520]

This is hypothetical not an experience.

[IslaTheWitch]

@BLP11520 I think I know when such a situation can happen and what can lead to it. I would avoid it in the first place.

[BLP11520]

You are right

[BLP11520]

I had that temptation many years ago

[IslaTheWitch]

@BLP11520 but thinking about it still can be fun :P

[BLP11520]

Yes😊😊

[NathanDavis]

this is something decide... once I listen to her idea and approach of what cheating is...

for me, it is very simple on the greater aspects... but then I would rather discuss the little details with her and her views on this subject, for example...

do I have to stop posting and joking about my admiration for Katy Perry in a Cheeto costume because then this would be cheating? sure I can stop doing that, lol

but if she expected me to stop any contact with my best friends who are girls, just because we're that close and that is worried that this is a form of cheating on her and the love I have for her... then I do not think I will align with something like that, because this would not be cheating, lol

[BadApple69]

My view of cheating has changed over the years. Cheating when I was younger was just thinking about another girl. As I got older and put more thought into it, cheating is taking something away from your partner. So if I was having sex with another woman and not having that sex with my wife (ex)… that would have been cheating. BUT… I had a sexless marriage. So if I went out and had sex with another woman the wife (ex) wasn’t being cheated out of anything. The fact she hated sex, means that me being faithful I was the one who was being cheated out of something. No sex for years meant I was angry and frustrated…. It was me that was being cheated out of something and it was effecting my health and happiness.
So cheating is different things to different people.

[4ngelic]

cheating to me would be kissing, any type of sex act, flirting, grinding on a girl at a club, having dating apps, phone sex, video chat sex, exchanging nudes with a stranger

whats not cheating to me is hugging (non romantic/sexual), having opposite sex friends, talking to guys/girls, watching porn

[Andres77]

Anytime another person takes priority over ur partner is cheating, even if there no sexual context.

“Thinking about it”, do you mean like fantasies when you masturbate? I’d say that is not cheating. Now, if you’re masturbating INSTEAD of being with your partner, that might not be cheating but it’s messed up.

[Anonymous]

Eye four 1 don’t see pornography as cheating unless it interferes with the intimacy of a relationship or marriage.


Internet pornography will keep a woman’s man at home and not out looking for a sidepiece. In fact, if couples watch it together then you got each other there to be with.

[Twalli]

Everyone thinks about cheating as soon as someone mentions it. So all of us who read this are thinking about it.
If you mean considering whether or not you should cheat then, yes. You wouldn't consider doing it if yuh ou respected your partner.
I haven't considered it because I not only love my girlfriend, but I respect her. We entered this relationship to only be sexual with each other and until we decide otherwise we will be.

[sheikalana]

Cheating to me is anything that you would hide or wouldn't do in front of your partner involving the opposite gender.

[molonski2]

Thinking about it is certainly NOT cheating , any right minded person thinks about it.

[Friendlybro79]

Is thinking about murder... murder? The answer is no and so the answer to your question is thinking of cheating.. cheating?

No it is not. Cheating is cheating.

[wiltingrosepetal]

Kissing someone else and any intimacy that follows that

[Nifrayu]

Basically dating or having sex with someone other than me without making me aware of it is cheating.

[jahaims]

Anything you hide from or won't do in front of your partner.

[Flatmanlewis]

This is a flawless and succinct answer. Well done.

[Maddy2002_]

If they gotta hide their phones or things from you. That’s not for work.

[BLP11520]

Physical contact, a kiss is not cheating but could be