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I'm almost 18. I still live with my parents and I probably will for a couple more years while I go to school. my mom recognizes I'm be coming an adult and I need to make my own decisions. my dad on the other hand wants to control my life he is telling me what to do every second every minute. I made a decision that one society deems as really bad and disrespectful to myself. I'm in a friends with benefits relationship. Honestly I don't have a problem with the decision I made but I'm tired of being treated like crap, I'm not saying anyone has to like it but it's my life, I don't know what I expected, I don't expect others especially my family to like my decision but I did expect them respect me every person in their daughter and keep their mouth shut, because this is something I like and something I want to do and I want to keep going.

I have always been a good kid. I've always done what my parents ask me. I'll even take the initiative to do my chores without being asked. Out of all four kids, I am most respectful, but cuz Of my decision and have zero respect for my parents. they basically called me a piece of s*** and they tell me I'm a w**** . honestly I don't see how I'm not sleeping around.

I love my parents and I will respect the rules while l live in their for home, but what I do have outside the high should be my own business.

I'm so frustrated and really need male insight! First of all I am an attractive woman in my late 20's who is a med student. Never had any trouble getting the guys I wanted. So one of my classmates is a guy who is very attractive to me and is also a friend. He and I have always been a little *ahem* cozier than most friends would be, plus he does sweet things like tell me that I look great and hold doors for me. Honestly, it's obvious that he's liked me as more than a friend for a while. It took me some time to catch up, but recently I realized that I'm into him in a sexual way.

One recent night when we were out we finally started making out. It was seriously steamy although it didn't go further because I had to go home. Flirty/dirty texting ensued in the following days and I have decided that I totally want him as friends with benefits . I am super busy and just do NOT want a "relationship" and I know he knows that. From the sound of things, he doesn't want a relationship either. I value his friendship and I believe that friends with benefits can be just that, especially including the "friends" part. I have successfully done this with a classmate before and it was great; hush-hush at school with no drama.

But here's the problem: he seems to have low self-esteem and doubts that I am attracted to him! So, we haven't actually hooked up yet and it is driving me crazy. I don't know what to do besides just bonk him over the head and say come on let's f*&@!! But I hate to "chase" a guy because that seems tacky and desperate to me. Or are the rules for getting a guy friend as a friends with benefits different from the rules for actually dating? Because if I knew it wouldn't totally turn him off I would just ask him "when are you going to take me home with you?"

Please guys, what is his deal and what should I do? PS--I don't like random hookups because there is no mental/intellectual challenge there, like there is with a guy friend that you know and respect.