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I've been through a lot of crap in my life that I'd rather like to forget (haven't we all after a few decades, though?). As a very young child I began to suffer physical and emotional abuse at the hands of my own family. My older brother, who was supposed to be my protector, beat me every day from the time I was 6 until I was 15. I'm not talking about hair-pulling and teasing. I'm talking about countless black eyes, busted lips, bruises everywhere, a dislocated jaw (3 times), and several occurances of pissing blood. It was so bad that everyday was a waking nightmare spent in fear of the next time a fist comes hurtling down into my face or stomach or back. No one gave a damn. My parents were never there and when they were they were beating my a** as well (belts, wire coat hangers, extension cords and one very memorable experience of having a skateboard flung at my head). They were supposed to protect me and didn't seem to see a problem with having a child that's face is constantly black and blue. At 12 I suffered year long sexual abuse (rape, sodomy) from a family friend that was living with us. I was screwed up. I didn't even know for a long time that this wasn't how all families acted. When I got away at 15 I had such a hard time dealing with it all that I tried to commit suicide and was institutionalized for a little while to keep from hurting myself. But that was a long time ago. About 16 years, anyway. I still suffer from PTSD and major trust issues but my life is better than it ever has been. I have a family (husband, kids) and they are my life. They saved me from myself, in a way.
I heard recently (from an in-law) that people who go through things like that are damaged and basically worthless. That we all end up as drug addicts or prostitutes or abusers ourselves. It made me very upset because I am none of these things. I've tried very hard to be a decent person and leave my past in the past.
Do you think that I am an exception to this? Is it really that impossible to be a good person after all of that? Anything you'd have to say, I'd like to hear. Any comments will be much appreciated.

Okay so I hated the idea of meeting my boyfriends family because I have major trust issues because of my own family. But because I was pregnant I was kind of pressured in to rushing things because of my boyfriend. I wanted to get closer to him before I meet his family. We had our baby and now there are major issues in our relationship. He's being angry and snapping out , we have trust issues, I'm almost certain I'm being abused at this point. I have no idea what he has told his family about me. I'm I have a rough past and I'm dealing with mental health issues. He broke up with me and I find out that his sister is telling him that he shouldn't leave our son with me and he should call the cops to supervise things because of MY anger issues and history of bad judgement calls. And that he should take our son to go to his dad's to another city. I hate that they are now involved in all this drama. This was the whole reason I didn't want them involved right away. I feel disrespected as a mother. I let her in to my life and in to my mom and around our son and she has this nasty judgmental bullshit to say about me. I really want to give her a piece of my mind. My boyfriend or now ex I'm not even sure at this point messaged her and told her that she needed to apologize to me and she made it all about how she feels and him treating her like crap and that she loved our son but he doesn't need her in his life. I'm just beyond livid