I know this question might seem really silly and irrelevant but I really need your take on this one, cause I have major trust issues and need to know if i should let it go or not.
So i've been seeing a guy a couple of times, we hang out and we have sex, and we get a long really well so I think we both kinda like each other (although there are no feelings there yet). We were meant to hang out this weekend, I actually asked him and he said he wanted to see me, but the same morning he texts me saying he's sick and that we'll have to hang out another time. I immediately thought he's lying and that it's just an excuse not to see me? I probably wouldn't still be worried if it wasn't that it has been like 4-5 days ever since and I haven't even heard of him. We both go to uni and have a lot to do everyday, but I'd think if you're interested in a girl, you don't cancel on her cause you're "sick" and if you do at least younsuggesst another time, OR you at least text her or SOMETHING in a couple of days, but I haven't heard anything. What do you guys think? Is this a sign in lack of interest or should I just relax? Because of this I keep checking my phone all the time and I'm scared to ask him again to hang out cause im worried that he isn't interested.
Thank you xoxoxo
Most Helpful Guy
I am a guy and when I go quiet on a girl it means I am not interested in her. I am never too busy to send a few texts, so if a guy disappears off the radar then it's likely that he's lost interest or he's found a new girl and is focusing on her. To me from what I have read it seems like a classic case of hang out with a girl a few times, have sex and then cut and run.
Of course I could be wrong and he could have something like the flu which can keep you in bed for over a week. I have had it once and I was so ill that I couldn't physically leave my bed for around a week.
Most Helpful Girl
Hmmm... first thing I noticed is you have trust issues! Which means that you need to learn to trust yourself and your gut. You might even have to talk to someone about your trust issues and see if that can be solve. Second, this guys seem to like friends with benefits he probably not looking for a relationship because he busy all the time and doesn't want a relationship. I know you don't want ask him but in person you should ask him whats up! Like just ask him! If he rejects you... its time to take your losses and leave instead of wasting your time by the phone like a sad puppy... waiting for him.