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Thinking about it like this, guys are at their horniest/most pervy in their teenage years when their testosterone levels are at their highest.

Physical fitness, athleticism, competitiveness (be it in the corporate world or between males). Now as you get older, testosterone drops and so do all the other factors that contribute to males.

So Girls generally say they don't like guys that are too sexual and too pervy. But in a sense they're referring to a preference for men that will athelically look less fit/muscular, less driven, less dominant. I. e a dad bod vs a shreaded guy. When guys get more muscular and more fit, their testosterone levels tend to increase, they hve an increased libido and drive but girls don't like this they claim

Is it a bit irrational to not like guys being pervy but expect a preference for guys in shape? Thinking about it like this, guys are at their horniest/most pervy in their teenage years when their testosterone levels are at their highest.

Physical fitness, athleticism, competitiveness (be it in the corporate world or between males). Now as you get older, testosterone drops and so do all the other factors that contribute to male peak attributes.

So Girls generally say they don't like guys that are too sexual and pervy. But in a sense they're referring to a preference for men that will athelically look less fit/muscular, less driven, less dominant.

I. e a dad bod vs a shreaded guy. When guys get more muscular and more fit, their testosterone levels tend to increase, they have an increased libido and drive but girls claim they don't like this kinda guy when expecting all the other pros.

Is it a bit irrational to not like guys being pervy but expect a preference for guys in shape and masculine?

Some backstory: I find very few people in general to be attractive (speaking strictly about physical appearances). So I often don't date. Instead I sit back and learn about people over time. Some people are cute when I meet them and seem less attractive over time. Others seem to become more attractive. Those that are cute at first tend to be pretty great people then I get comfortable with their personalities and I kinda just decide to stick around and keep trying often times reluctantly. Those that aren't cute at first tend to become more attractive as I learn more about them but I always find myself fighting to get over some physical attribute of theirs. As I get older I see less and less people as physically attractive and I feel more guilty about even caring about physical appearances.

However on the other side of the coin when I ignore physical appearance altogether almost everyone seems to be a pretty okay person to be around with both attractive and unattractive personality traits. Everyone feels kinda the same. It's the little push from the physical attraction that makes a person stand out to me or the physical attraction tends to follow pretty quickly after I learn about something attractive, personality-wise, about them.

So is it a good decision to follow my instincts even though I know they're shallow? As a (mostly?) heterosexual guy with a lot of female friends it makes me feel like a shitty person for not wanting to be in a nonplatonic relationship with girls who are honestly pretty great but just not physically appealing to me. I feel like I'm being a selfish uncaring asshole. No one chose their body. It's admittedly a pretty unfair thing to judge people on. But at the same time without using physical attraction as a compass of sorts I end up leaving every girl I meet that's interested in me feeling like another fish in the sea rather than that special one out of 7 billion.