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It's not working out. It's not working for me. I am taking the relationship status on Facebook down until we have a better footing because it seems like we don't have enough time for each other. I understand you're busy with school and league, but 2 weeks is just too long not to talk. I was really worried about you. I don't like the way we're treating each other, and I forgot we were even dating. I want us to try again in the future, but right now it's just not working. Next time I'll treat you the way I want to be treated. So you're okay with breaking up?"

you say "if that's what you want, and if that makes you happy, then fine." and you remove her from everything- photos, Facebook, Skype. she tries to apologize immediately after and you ignore her and her other two attempts to call. you say that the nagging was annoying.

-then realizes what she said was stupid as hell-

and apologizes a month later and says:

"I'm sorry for what has happened between us and ended what we had. I was wrong and have had time and help to recognize that. It is important to let you know that you weren't at fault, and I wish I could turn back the clock with what I now understand, and it wasn't fair to disrespect you like the way I did without even talking to you, and just assuming things. I realize now that I couldn't handle the stress I was putting on myself to be a good girlfriend for you with the distance, and at the same time causing a lot of fights and rifts between us. I kept picking at us and our relationship, when all I wanted was to just talk to you, not blame you for every little thing. You're always going to be you and I'll always be me but that doesn't mean we can't co-exist and understand each other. You did that for me, and I want to do that for you too. I knew that we were busy and I was fine with it, but still exploded on you. And I wanted to stop that, and the control I wanted over everything. We were fine just the way we were, and I could not let up. I don't want to jerk you around or beat you up and freak out anymore, I just want to make you happy and support you, no matter what, and I'm upset I wasn't there for you when you needed it the most, because not everything is about me, and I can't force things either. You've made me really happy and been there for me. It really hurt me that I was pressuring, annoying, and alienating you with my actions and words towards you, when all I wanted to do was just be with you or at least a friend to you. I would love just to talk. There is a lot to share. And I just hope that you're happy and I will always think the best of you."

It's been over a year since I've started seeing this man. He is now 40 and I am 39. After a couple of breakups, the last one being in October, we reconciled and he said that the "fog had lifted" and that he truly loved me but hadn't been able to see that before. The "perfect" person was in front of him all this time and it took him this long to see it. OK, that seemed like it was good.

I have trust issues with him and likely stemming back to when he was still on POF and sites like that up until I called him out on it. He went and deleted all profiles in front of me - at his insistence.

It is WRONG but he knows that I did it, I checked the history on his computer. Nothing really there. But while on the internet, I went to log on to FB and he was auto-logged in. I checked the messages which was so wrong on my part. A message from a former girlfriend (or fling) who lives 1000 miles away. They talked about how it would have been nice to have pursued what they had. Turns out he booked a flight for his two daughters and himself to go home (to where this woman is at). He went there for his 40th birthday. They talked about getting together. She said something to the effect, "wouldn't that be cheating?" He said, "ya it is but I couldn't come this far and not see you".

He begged me to go with him but I couldn't take time off work. He texted every single day, several times a day, phoned often etc. I had a feeling he met up with her but don't think anything happened though. When I asked him about this message (before he left), he said he didn't know what she meant by cheating...

When he got home, he brought several gifts for me and the following Monday, he bought me a car. Yes, I needed one but really...a bit extreme. He said it was for my 40th in June. When I told him that I could never thank him enough, he said, "just be secure in our relationship". He said he would never take another holiday without me ever again.

We see each other just about every day and definitely talk every day. He tells me he loves me, talks about adding on to the house. Then he'll drop it for a while. Then he's "on" again but tonight he was somewhat off.

What the h*ll is wrong with me? Why do I still get that nagging feeling...? Someone please help me get past this nagging insecurity. I fee like I am plan B until someone better comes along..

Thank you.