GUYS- what would you do if your girlfriend said this to you?

[Anonymous]

It's not working out. It's not working for me. I am taking the relationship status on Facebook down until we have a better footing because it seems like we don't have enough time for each other. I understand you're busy with school and league, but 2 weeks is just too long not to talk. I was really worried about you. I don't like the way we're treating each other, and I forgot we were even dating. I want us to try again in the future, but right now it's just not working. Next time I'll treat you the way I want to be treated. So you're okay with breaking up?"

you say "if that's what you want, and if that makes you happy, then fine." and you remove her from everything- photos, Facebook, Skype. she tries to apologize immediately after and you ignore her and her other two attempts to call. you say that the nagging was annoying.

-then realizes what she said was stupid as hell-

and apologizes a month later and says:

"I'm sorry for what has happened between us and ended what we had. I was wrong and have had time and help to recognize that. It is important to let you know that you weren't at fault, and I wish I could turn back the clock with what I now understand, and it wasn't fair to disrespect you like the way I did without even talking to you, and just assuming things. I realize now that I couldn't handle the stress I was putting on myself to be a good girlfriend for you with the distance, and at the same time causing a lot of fights and rifts between us. I kept picking at us and our relationship, when all I wanted was to just talk to you, not blame you for every little thing. You're always going to be you and I'll always be me but that doesn't mean we can't co-exist and understand each other. You did that for me, and I want to do that for you too. I knew that we were busy and I was fine with it, but still exploded on you. And I wanted to stop that, and the control I wanted over everything. We were fine just the way we were, and I could not let up. I don't want to jerk you around or beat you up and freak out anymore, I just want to make you happy and support you, no matter what, and I'm upset I wasn't there for you when you needed it the most, because not everything is about me, and I can't force things either. You've made me really happy and been there for me. It really hurt me that I was pressuring, annoying, and alienating you with my actions and words towards you, when all I wanted to do was just be with you or at least a friend to you. I would love just to talk. There is a lot to share. And I just hope that you're happy and I will always think the best of you."

Ignore her

Take her back

Talk to her

Tell her to kick rocks

Pour your heart out (if you still have feelings)

[Cryostatic]

You're not going to like what I have to say about this, but I think you need to hear it anyway.

First of all, what you said in the first place wasn't "stupid as hell" if it was true. You went TWO WEEKS without TALKING? That's not a relationship, sweetheart.

He reacted badly, and you apologized for WHAT? Your apology renders everything you said completely irrelevant and gives him the upper hand, and you get nothing in return for it. My guess is that isn't the first time something like that's happened in your relationship, and that every time you ever tried to bring up a problem, he either turned it right back around on you, or acted all upset and you recanted. Making everything YOUR fault instead of actually TALKING ABOUT and ADDRESSING the problem is called "manipulation", and either he's a master of it, or you don't know how to recognize it.

He's got you thinking that you were picking at him and your relationship, blaming him for problems that never existed, acting like a control freak, and blowing up on him, when you were very probably only trying to talk to him about minor problems in the first place. Why you're desperately trying to cling to this vapid a**hole is beyond me. You might think you love him, but he obviously doesn't care much for you.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

I'd probably talk to her.

I mean, I think it's very stupid to be that willing to quit cause I might be busy with school + whatever else is going on, but if she's feeling neglected that is a fair problem to have and something she should talk to me about. But to want to end it or at least threatening to end it cause of that would bother me.

Then again, it would depend if she tried at all to talk about the problems earlier. If she tried and didn't get through to me, this kinda shock might get me to pay attention more. I do know sometimes I can be oblivious, but, then again, I don't recall ever being that oblivious about such when it comes to someone I love.

But ya, it's hard to really say what I'd do :\ I'd probably talk to her regardless.

Curious, why'd it take a month?

[Asker]

Because I wanted to give him space. I'd already tried reaching him once or twice and he ignored me, so yeah.

[Asker]

He said on his stream we were fine, but me calling at 2 am nagging was annoying and he doesn't like me because that stuff got annoying and when we broke up he just said alright. Bit that wasn't what I wanted. I just wanted him to show he cared, and I wasn't perfect either at showing I did. But I wanted to try again

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Wait, what stream? Are you Dryus' girlfriend? :P Wait does he have one?

Would be kinda amused if it's someone I know of.

But ya, it sounds like he's still a kid anyways tbh if he's being mean like that. I guess just move on :\

Curious, do you play LoL?

[Asker]

And yeah, that's why I feel stupid. And no I don't, I don't mind the gaming either.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Ya? Ya what? :P

But seriously, it might be better not to get involved if someone is gonna be a child about it. Then again, he might just be really hurt and trying to be like that to cope or something.

[Asker]

Idk. What other league players do you know of? Message me.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Can't message you when you're anonymous.

[Asker]

True. Which players do you know?

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

I know of a lot. Don't necessarily personally know them or talk to em, some I do talk to though.

Guardsman Bob, Hashinshin, Dryus, Wickd, HotShotGG, SaintVicious (he's a drunk douche tbh), Shushei, TheOddOne, TheRainMan, RiotRara, Phreak, Hiyeon, etc

Granted, Hiyeon, RiotRara, and some others are girls, but ya :P I know quite a lot.

[Asker]

He isn't any of them, so that's good :D but yeah, why would he respond that like when we broke up?

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Is he actually a pro/famous gamer? Or just someone trying to make it still and isn't too big yet? :P cause there are a lot more pro gamers than what I listed hah.

And I dunno... he probably just wasn't sure what to say. But what he did after kinda shows he was hurt to me.

[Asker]

well, I added you, so we'll talk further :p

[Anonymous]

It's been awhile hasn't it? You've posted this a few times, minus the last paragraph...

I think he would have thought that the apology was way too late and probably built up the emotions from before or could have discarded them all in terms of -I don't care anymore- I think he'll ignore.. sorry.

You did have a good apology though but really, I think it was too late.

[EPhantom]

I'm not going to answer the poll, I'm not going to answer the question, I'm going to try to help you understand what a third party sees.

Guy goes to school, and "has a long distance relationship" with a girl. When he gets home, he doesn't talk with his "girlfriend", but instead sits on his butt and plays League of Legends.

He spends more his time with League of Legends then he does on his "girlfriend". So he has a relationship with this "League of Legends" chick and not this girlfriend thing that he keeps in the closet.

Personally, I think you shouldn't even try to get back in that relationship, it was not healthy for you in the least, he didn't care to stop you from breaking up with him, and he loved his game so much that he wouldn't talk with you when he had time outside of class... It sounded like he had a relationship with his game instead of having one with you.

[Asker]

i mean, he said be understanding about him being busy with league and school, so I told him I would. and he said be happy and good luck with exams, we'll have time in the summer. but then I told him our conversation wasn't good enough and that I've been really trying for his time and he said it wouldn't happen again. and then two weeks later I dump him? that's why he's mad.

[EPhantom]

If he had exams coming up then he should have been studying for those and not playing league. =/ then use his spare time to talk with you.

[Asker]

mm yeah, he just said one or two things, but I didn't say anything either..

we had been fighting for a while. mainly because I kept picking fights with him...

but I know we broke up but it hurts that we live 15 minutes away and we can't see each other because of what I did... he's avoiding me at all costs. so I sent him that note, because I felt inconsistent with my actions, and put it out on the table that I'd like to try because I know I wasn't the nicest or perfect or communicative either

[EPhantom]

But the thing is you tried to talk with him, you tried to spend some time with him, that's what really matters.

You didn't do anything wrong. You were not happy with how your relationship was going and decided you had enough. You actually let him know that there was something wrong and he chose not to fix it.

My last relationship was LONG distance, and for an entire month she felt something was wrong and didn't talk with me about it, then ended it in an instant.

You did nothing wrong.

[Asker]

maybe so. I just wanted to be with him. like I said, I wasn't perfect. I guess that note won't do any good, and he's just gone for good?

[EPhantom]

If you really want him back, you will most likely be able to get him back because of what his personality type seems to be.

But what you should really ask is if you want him back, or if you want a chance with someone else.

[Asker]

what do you think his personality to be?

now that I'm over the whole blaming and crying and 'woe is me' thing, i... don't really know. I feel dumb because we would've went camping, he would be taking me out, giving me his undivided attention. I just hate the things I've said, that we can't even be friends at least. but it's all in how I said things.

[EPhantom]

With how he worded his response, and how he ignored you to play his games, it seems he doesn't have his priorities straight and doesn't really want to work on keeping relationships or anything like that. He just reminds me of the kind of guy that waits for anyone who is interested in them to come along and goes with them.

When did/does his exams end?

[Asker]

maybe the week after mine did. so basically a week after I got home. but we had already broken up by then. I thought about shooting a text and saying "okay, we were both asses. can we at least talk since we're 15 minutes away?" (I haven't sent the pour out yet, but I'm just exploring options). yeah, I reached out to his friend and asked if he was okay, I wanted to apologize to him, and the dude was just like 'yeah, we talked about camping, and that's it' and I just didn't respond. that dude

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Where the f*** did league of legends come from?

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

wait is that what she meant by League? I assumed by League she meant a sports league >.> hah. ya, he's a dumbass if he was ignoring her cause of LoL

[Asker]

He plays professionally

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Ah, wait who is it? That's pretty interesting.

If he does play professionally, then that makes sense why he'd be playing so much. It's a job to him.

[Asker]

I'm not saying who it is.

[iXenomorph]

I wouldn't bother with her. Maybe say some mean things, because I'm pretty mean.