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I'm a girl so I get stressed easily. (Obviously) My boyfriend is in the military and we've been together for about two years. We plan on getting married next year during the Summer. (He asked both my parents and they are okay with it and they love him) I am a senior this year and plan on going to college right after. I'm not a judgy person, or typically rude under any circumstances.. But I will state facts, one, I am Christian (I'm a PK) and he is atheist. We talked about this before and he's ok with trying to go to church and be open about it and talked about it with future kids etcetc because he does want to believe its just hard for him and I'm there to help him in any way possible if he wants. But there, fact remains. Second, his family is very dysfunctional, lots of fighting between everyone. (Not being rude, twas what I was told by them when I first started dating him) And I really dislike his father and sister due to them being extremely hypocritical and selfish. I honestly dislike them a large amount and if we have kids together wouldn't trust them completely with them.. Even though I don't want too not like them I'm still not fond of them.. I love him, very much.. and he's the only one I trust, and want to spend my life with. Before I was with him I was in a very abusive relationship and dealt with massive shit from that. So he is extremely special and amazing. Him being atheist doesn't change that and it never has. I don't think any less then him because he is open to it. I just.. Want to know if we do get married how that would effect some things. So, please read that the right way. haha I'm also a republican and he is quite Liberal. Before I get married I just want to understand the things that could happen, effecrs etcetc. I guess I just need advice. Thank you very much. <3 (Also I don't believe in religion I believe in one God. So I'm not crazy crazy strict and "all knowing" or whatever. Even if I am a preachers kid.)

The family I’m about to describe is very dysfunctional. I’d rather not go into the details about how I’m involved because this situation is embarrassing (even online). I already tried typing this, and thought it was confusing, so I’m simplifying it by referring to everyone involved with letters. I’d rather not mention names.

A – ex-boyfriend of H
B – older brother #1
C – older sister
D – older brother #2
E – older brother #3
F – younger sister
G – the mother of A, B, C, D, E, and F
H – ex-girlfriend of A

A began dating H in 2009. In March 2011, H found out she was pregnant, and A assumed he was the father because, at the time, he had no reason to expect otherwise. When they announced the pregnancy to A’s family, B told C in privacy that it’s possible that he may be the father. He admitted that he and H slept together once in January. C told E, F, and G, and they all insisted that B and H do a paternity test. The results came back indicating that B was the father, but the family agreed to keep it a secret because it was not their place, B would never be a good father, and A’s relationship with B and H would be destroyed if he ever found out the truth.

In May, A and H found out H was pregnant with twins. When A told his family the news, they gossiped more and the gossip accidentally reached D in June. They were trying to keep the secret from D because A and D are close, and they didn’t expect him to go along with their secret. When D found out that B was the father, he told A. A confronted H and B, swore off the entire family (except D), and officially ended his relationship with H. The babies (a girl and a boy) were born in September and are now about 2.5 years old.

The newest problem is that the babies are the spitting image of A, even though H claims that the paternity test revealed B is the father. I have doubts about whether B is truly the father for several reasons:

1. H is a pathological liar. What if she’s lying about the test too?