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You've probably heard about this "Game": Wait X amount of days to call him/ her; Making yourself unavailable; ... simply put: "Playing hard to get". This theory is on the internet, in books, in movies, etc.. They're everywhere. They're like those news about wars that is reported on TV, newspapers, radio, etc. that you'd think wars happens in today's time more than ever before. But in fact they're not. Just because they're reported more than ever before due to better communication media (TV, internet, newspaper, radio) doesn't mean they happen more.

Similar to thosw war-stories it's like those "Playing hard to get"-theories: Just because they're seemingly everywhere doesn't mean, they're practiced by a lot persons.

The amounts of reports of wars in comparison to the actual numbers of wars. Just because there's a lot of documentary, reports and news about wars doesn't mean there are more wars then in former times. In fact it's decreased. Yet the conscious about wars has increased due to the different ways of today's reports of wars: radio, tv, internet, newspapers, etc.

I think it's the same with "playing hard to get". There are tons of material on "playing hard to get" on the interwebs, forums, books, movies, etc. that people think everybody or at least more than the actual numbers really doing it.

I've never met s.o. who plays hard to get. Everyone I'm talking to said, it's stupid and in fact it is. It contradicts the logic. Why should I repel s.o. who I like? Why should my interest increase, if s.o. turns me down? The only reason this "playing hard to get" became so popular in the media is it's more exciting and funnier. Or have you ever heard of a dating movie without any drama?

To Back up my theses, that hard-to-get is only rare to find resp. should only rare to be found, here's what scientists say:

Source: "The Journal Of Experimental Education" (Volume 39, Number 3, Spring 1971) by Elaine Walster (The University of Wisconsin); G. William Walster (The University of Wisconsin); Ellen Berscheid (University of Minnesota)

"It has often been suggested that individuals will prefer dates who play 'hard-to-get'. Two experiments were conducted [...]. This hypothesis was not confirmed [...]. It appears that playing-hard-to-get is not an effective strategy for increasing one's status. Apparently, all the world does love a lover.

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In sum, the present data indicate that people simply like people who like people. There is no evidence for the hypothesized effectiveness of a hard-to-get strategy. Both hard-to-get hypothesis failed to receive even a suggestion of support."

But what's your take on that?