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Summery:
My coworker who has feelings for me randomly gave me $100 last week for “wasting my time.” I’ve tried to give it back a couple times and she insists I take it. I feel bad taking it but arguing back and forth about it is getting tiring

Details:
My coworker has had a crush on me for a while and she gave me the silent treatment for months after I told her that I didn’t feel the same way. I told her respectfully but she’s constantly posting about being suicidal and I’m apparently one of the reasons why. (And I hate to say it, but a lot of the suicidal stuff she’s posts seems to be for attention. I think its pretty obvious)

She says she’s never been in a relationship before and really wanted to be with me, and doesn’t think she will find anyone like me.

Last week, she called me and told me she left an envelope on my back door. It was $100 and a card that said “Sorry for wasting your time” and she says that she owes me for the time I’ve spent with her. I tried to insist that she’s giving it to me for no reason but she won’t listen.

tonight I invited her over because she wanted to talk about how she’s feeling. She just went into more detail about her feelings for me and how she’s upset that I’m in a relationship now. I tried to just tell her respectfully that I’m sorry I don’t feel the same way but she will find a guy soon.

Which just led to her going off on me about how she thinks I don’t like her because of her weight and her ranting about being worthless, and implying she wanted to kill her self. After she left, she STILL left the $100 and insists that I keep it... but I feel like I would be a horrible person for taking it.

(I realize $100 isn’t THAT much in the end. But it’s just the fact she’s giving it to me for no reason and how I’m the reason she’s so hurt. She even gifted me a $60 hoodie which I accepted and I still feel bad for even taking that)

this whole situation is honestly fucking exhausting to me

Getting rejected because you are too short, overweight, too skinny, age, unattractive face, annoyingly pitched voice, etc does sting. It makes you feel generally less attractive. Besides your body shape most of those characteristics are genetic. BUT there is a peace of mind knowing you couldn’t of done anything better with your approach.

However if you got rejected because of your personality there can be some strong regrets knowing you had a chance. They say “well don’t change yourself for someone” but it is a bitter pill to swallow when your crush might of responded differently if you approached him/her with better game.

Also changing personality is not easy. Although it is impacted by your environment I do believe people are born with different personality characteristics. Introvertism runs in my family. My mother and her father were notorious introverts. Unfortunately I inherited that and in the USA introverts are usually looked down upon (especially if your male). But I have purposely put myself in social situations to improve. I’m not afraid of public speaking.

There was this 1 lady i Fancied or had a crush on in my old school class, but not sure if it was strong enough to call it a crush,
i didn't like... think of her all the time n fantasise about her n shit...
i jus thought she looked really good when i saw her in class... it was more like 😍😍😍 feeling,
also i thought she was really cute and friendly... like her personality... i liked that too...

but would u call that a crush? I dont think what i was feeling was strong enough to call that a crush,
I was reading some article about crushes and the writer said about “crying” about getting over the old crush... thats why im not sure i had a crush on that teacher... cos crying over not being with him seems a little daft to me... little silly, i wasn't that emotionally invested in her,
didn't think of her all the time.
jus had this sort of feeling. 😍😍😍 when i saw her,

so did i have a crush on her or jus fancied her? Not sure what to call it