Never date a man with kids!

[Anonymous]

OK OK I just me never date a man that is still fucking his baby mama.Hi Hannah hi school crush of course but he ended up having kids told me he was in with the baby mama so I thought they weren’t together or not having sex anymore. I was over there pretty much all the time move some things in.

I had a high school ex that I always thought I would end up with. but he ended up having kids told me he wasn’t with the baby mama so I thought they weren’t together or not having sex anymore. I was over there pretty much all the time move some things in.

then he introduced me to his children so I thought things were kind of getting serious because let’s face it nobody supposed to know your kids like that. If they’re not Siri

Then I realize that every now and then the baby mama has to live with him because she doesn’t have a place to stay on her own no job nothing. So I thought it was cool because you know you have to take care of your kids whatever. But of course you can’t live with somebody with that you Have kids with and not be having sex.
So I angerly bring my things out. Because I felt like I was getting played then again she move back out then it just started another cycle again.

so I angerly bring my things out. Because I felt like I was getting played then again she move back out then it just started another cycle again.

Basically I got played I was a distraction to him even though he told me he love me even though we hung out all the time even though it felt like we were in a real relationship but it wasn’t.

basically I got played I was a distraction to him even though he told me he love me even though we hung out all the time even though it felt like we were in a real relationship but it wasn’t.

I tried to get in bed with someone else but I was so uncomfortable I cried at the end of it because all I wanted to do was be with this person

I got hurt.
But at the end of the day I still love him but I can’t be in that.

Why couldn’t he just stay with her? Isn’t that the one he loves?

[BlueEyedBirdWatcher]

Are you just assuming that they are banging because they have kids together?
Do you have more reason to think that, because kids don't mean you have a special connection.

[myTake Owner]

No it’s not an assumption if you’re living with somebody that you’ve had sex with. Just because you’re trying to “help them out” And they don’t work or do anything. What else can she offer

[BlueEyedBirdWatcher]

That sounds like an assumption.
He could be just helping her because he doesn't want her kids to have a homeless mother, or a mother forced into a bad home.
Or she does more child care and house work.

[myTake Owner]

Yeah but after you’ve been around somebody so long and you have kids together don’t sit there and say that you don’t have sex with them please. It’s Comfort easy access. It’s not an assumption it happened before. It makes me believe that oh he’s not in a relationship and doesn’t want to be with her but in all seriousness that’s what I want or it looks like it

[BlueEyedBirdWatcher]

Maybe, people do go back to their ex's, but I think that's far from an assumption you can make.
He chose to be with you not her, men don't have to have sex with every woman they see.

[myTake Owner]

How is he choosing to be with me and still doing stuff with her that’s not it how is that going to work. Just be with her suffer make it work whatever that’s what you want. Don’t men have to Pretend to be with the baby mama for the kids?

[myTake Owner]

I understand where you’re coming from but what it looks like and what I can see I don’t think he cared for me as much as I thought he did it was fun while it lasted but I don’t wanna share

[BlueEyedBirdWatcher]

I'm not going to pretend to be with my baby mama for the kids. She needs to learn some relationships last and some don't. I will tell her why when she is old enough because you don't have to lie to your kids and tell them they have a perfect life, they won't believe you.
Its best for kids to see the real world being the best it can be.
If he was a good father he would be loyal to you for his kids, or at least loyal to himself and not go back to his ex.

[myTake Owner]

Well that’s good for you. I’m not the one that has kids with them I do want kids with him. I hope it doesn’t make me a bad person for wanting those things. But like I said the baby mama moves in sporadically she’s not stable. And she uses her kids to manipulate him. If he comes back I want him. But at the same time what is best for the kids is for them to be together so I’ll step aside for them to be happy.

[BlueEyedBirdWatcher]

It doesn't make you bad.
I wish you all luck with that.

[myTake Owner]

Thanks for talking with me.

[TheAfrikan]

Perfectly and well written love triangle. But some guys woth kids are not good in making a decision to either dump the baby mama, and move on with a new catch.

[myTake Owner]

Why don’t he just be with her.

[TheAfrikan]

Well men aresometimes locked between real love and mere lust, and guesd what we are driven more up by lust more often. He might be lusting on ya but he loves baby mama.

[myTake Owner]

Why did you lie to me and say he love me too. And why would he be around for so long. Why was he there for me when my mother died. He had to care about me a little bit right

[TheAfrikan]

Well I think he had to be there, death brings people closer since it is when bonding comesout big, since comforting you to him, would spice up things between you 2.

[myTake Owner]

He didn’t have to if it was just sex if he made it clear that I didn’t really mean anything To him he didn’t make that clear

[myTake Owner]

Meaning if a person really didn’t mean nothing to you and it was just sex then you shouldn’t be around for important moments

[TheAfrikan]

No it does not imply to that. Each person goes into a relationship for a certain reason. But if you think he loves you and you love him. Then confront him and tell him to decide between you n the mother of his kids.
That way you will find out the plain answer.

[myTake Owner]

It always turns out murky on my end he should just choose her anyway because that’s the mother of his children but he won’t sit there and marry her for whatever reason doesn’t make any sense to me. Obviously she’s the one for him

[myTake Owner]

There was no relationship on my understanding we were just hanging out and that’s what it was it didn’t really matter

[Guy13]

Never date a man with kids who has a littered past. I know 3 guys to went to "single Dad counseling meetups every 10 days. The fourth "10th day" weekly and professional psychologist. They both use a church pastoral focus counseling approach. One is remarried...

[rtlm368]

Not so fast! Not all men are pigs. Not all men will continue to have sex with their babies momma after they broke up. Yes, they will always have the connection because of the child / children. I will never touch "sexually" my babies momma. She happens to be the pig in this situation. Since the second brake up. There was two times she tried to get me to screw her. But i'm done and over her. she is one of those easy peasy chicks that will screw any guy who shows her interest. When she is DTF. Any way just because a guy has kids with a woman. It does not mean he is still screwing her. That would also go the other way. If you had kids with say two different men and were in a nother reltionship with a third man. would you be screwing the babies daddies while your with the new dude? I would think not...
Anyway better luck in your next adventure!
Be straight up with anyone you decide to bed down with and discus that your not laying with others and you expect they are not "with" anyone else while the two of you are a "thing". Just my 2C's...

[myTake Owner]

No I’m not saying all guys by because she is easy. It doesn’t you will turn it down either.

[Bratsondanielle]

All men are pigs. Every single one lol

[myTake Owner]

@Bratsondanielle no I don’t think that there are some really good guys out there. But we choose the ones that excites us and maybe shows us that they can be better.

[Bratsondanielle]

You can hate me all you want, but you ask for opinion and you are going to get mine! You are a fool. Joke's on you for not cutting him out completely the first time. Imma let y'all know what.. if my man stuck his thing in another chick and I found out!!! Imma put my car in d and stomp on the pedal and I ain't never coming back and neither taking no call or text ... bye bye guy

[myTake Owner]

LOL think about it I was in college he went to the military he get home before I did so thank we weren’t together he can’t wait around for me. But at the same time yeah it kind of sucks he’s now has kids with somebody else and she’s basically a parasite who can’t get her shit together but hey he chose her

[vexaknull]

Some people are just a mess.
Be happy you got out before things got too heavy.
I'm sorry though, that shit sucks

[myTake Owner]

I still want him with kids

[bulletbob555]

It sounds like a recipie for disaster. Just because you care doesn't mean you have to put up with that kind of thing

[cumbath]

If you still want him after all that, then you’re retarded.

[mrgspoter]

Don't be stupid and think your that special most men will not care about you don't you know?

[myTake Owner]

Nope didn’t think that

[mrgspoter]

So what's the problem, it's man they are mostly useless now days

[myTake Owner]

Just want somebody honest

[mrgspoter]

Well that's hard to find good luck

[Niharika13]

Simple trick- Just don't believe anyone too soon😊

[Anonymous]

Never date a woman with kids.

[myTake Owner]

I don’t have kids but we aren’t the problem

[asshole_]

Never date/marry women with kids

[F1nski]

Never date a women with kids/

[Aquiline_feast]

He is still a man.

[myTake Owner]

What do you mean he still a man?

[supercutebutt]

He still has a penis.

[myTake Owner]

@supercutebutt soooo?

[supercutebutt]

So a penis is what distinguishes males from females in our world.

[myTake Owner]

@supercutebutt ok..