Men should never online date

[Alperengin11]

Thats just gonna suck because girls of our age dont understand this concept yet.They probably compare it to real dating and think it sucks thats why most of the time it won't go well.You will most likely end up getting blocked unless you tell them you are rich or something or made them really interested somehow.They will block you even if you are just being nice so dont even try if you hate failing like me.Girls judge men over things men dont even think about.If you replied to her message 10 minutes late they will judge you and think you are boring and maybe because they have other guys texting them rapidly they compare you to them and think you dont care at all.The bottom line is when you talk to girls do it face to face or invite them on the phone to date today.Good luck

[bamesjond0069]

Honestly most men have zero game. They don't care about themselves and are boring and it shows very clearly in online dating. Just like us dudes can spot a hot college girl in a bikini vs an overweight single mom... it's obvious when they are right next to each other swiping.

Just step it up. I see fat dudes with messy beards posting they won level 10 on some video game. No shit Sherlock no girl will want that guy.

Video games are garbage

Being messy looking just live in the trash honestly

Having zero flirting skills or game... wtf bro.

The worst is no standards "I like thin girls but I also like big girls so anyone can apply" 🤮 just say what you want, that wishy washy shit makes girls dry as the Sahara. Want a bbw, just say it. Want a size 0? Just say it. Don't care much? Then stfu and talk about something important and stop wasting space on blabbering nonsense.

Sorry y'all just not good enough. Put in some effort.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Why the fck would any girl want to date a guy who flirts with other girls?

[bamesjond0069]

@WhiteBoyChill I think you posted on the wrong comment?

[WhiteBoyChill]

I didn’t. You were saying having zero flirting skills or game was an issue.

But I don’t think its at all necessary for a long term relationship

[bamesjond0069]

@WhiteBoyChill that's exactly the problem. It's absolutely necessary for a long term relationship. I've been with my girlfriend now 2 years. I flirt with her every single day. Why should a woman want a boring man who doesn't make her feel sexy for a long term relationship? When she can get a guy who is fun and makes her feel sexy for a long term relationship? This should be obvious.

[WhiteBoyChill]

So I guess being loyal or whatever doesn’t actually matter then. So long as I’m exciting to be around

[bamesjond0069]

@WhiteBoyChill I mean yeah. Girls don't care about that in the same way men do.

[coachTanthony]

I think if you are 40 and up online dating is much easier and more real. I feel bad for the men under 35 ... online dating can be a cesspool of snap chat thots and only fan girls looking for money.

[es20490446e]

Why do you think it is easier and more real?

[coachTanthony]

Because there aren’t too many 40 year old snap chat models asking for money. My older clients find it much easier to find people like themselves. Too many young women looking for sugar daddies ruin the pool …young guys have a hard time because of this as well.

[es20490446e]

That's sad, that only when people are too old to form a family don't have such problems.

I think it's a symptom of a wider problem, which is that people expect to get the most by doing little in return.

Aka they want their partner to be perfect, but they are far from that. Or even far from being a nice person to be around.

Too sad that many people only give up on that when they have no other choice, not because of morals.

[coachTanthony]

@es20490446e Yeah i hear ya... so many problems with online dating. It is doable though just a little more difficult these days unfortunately.

[es20490446e]

I concluded that the key is not wasting time making other people to change, but move to people that have a good mindset to start with.

[14JDPO]

I met my love through e-harmony. We are both in our 40s, and we have both been very upfront and honest about ourselves and what we want from the beginning. We have been together now for 9 months, and he is truly the sweetest, most genuine guy I've ever met. We talk every day, see each other two or three times a week, sometimes more. I am looking forward to (hopefully) spending the rest of my life with this man - and he's made it clear that's the direction he wants things to go with us. <3 So not ALL online experiences are horrible - but it took going through several not-so-great guys, both online and old-school dating, before I found my love.

[anon1903]

I think nobody should date online. Because most of them are long distance relationship, which is hard.

[Guy13]

Exactly face-face and real time at places like www.meetup.com. Put in zip code. Indoor and outdoor soccer matches through there and three a week if you are a junkie. Socials etc...

[14JDPO]

That doesn't work when you live in a small rural town and the closest meetup event is 2+ hours (one way) away...

[Guy13]

@14JDPO damn…. yeah that makes life much more difficult for real-time people meet.

[Adaeva]

I suppose there is both good and bad in online dating. It may be that for the younger crowd, there are far more guys than girls. Therefore, since, in that case, there are plenty more guys, girls may believe they can be overly selective. I also suspect there may be a lot of fake profiles or profiles with older photos or photos that misrepresent what the person looks like. Therefore, for a first meeting, I suggest meeting for tea, coffee, or a soft drink at a public place and be quick to leave if the person is not as described by their photos.

[GreenLanternI0I]

You said a lot of good and correct statements there. I have said it before many times, that online dating is a Paradise for all women of any age, but when it comes to guys, only 14% of men rip the Full benefits of online dating, due to their Way above average handsome looks, having tons of cash or having a lot of fame and influence that most girls are aware of.

[Varanus]

Go ahead and create an account on a dating site pretending to be a woman and get back with us, and you'll quickly learn the world of online dating isn't a paradise for women. It's just... the opposite problem men face. If you're even moderately attractive, you'll get dozens, sometimes hundreds of messages per week from creepy dudes oozing desperation just bombarding your inbox with disgusting shit. That's not exactly what I'd call a paradise.

For men on dating sites, it's a desert. For women, it's a flood. Neither of those are a comfortable or pleasant place to be.

So if you are actually being a decent human being and women aren't returning your messages, try to put yourself in their shoes. How many creepy, gross messages would you read before you just noped out and stepped away for a while?

Honestly though, it tends to be a minority of guys who send hundreds of messages a day that make dating sites hell for women. I think the best thing any dating site could do is a put a cap on the number of outgoing messages anyone can send. Like 1-2 per day. It would really help with the signal to noise ratio.

[GreenLanternI0I]

@Varanus Point taken and you said it Well ""For men on dating sites, it's a desert. For women, it's a flood. Neither of those are a comfortable or pleasant place to be"". I guess the grass always does look greener on the other side.

[Soteris]

This is stupid. Computers and by extension, the internet, is an immensely powerful tool. To deny yourself its use simply because you are afraid of getting blocked or whatever will cripple your chances of success and make you fall behind everyone else in society.

A tool is never evil. Its up to you to use it correctly.

[RealMarek]

If you’re mature and ready to have a family you can probably find a younger woman who struggles to find men who want to commit. Online dating is a numbers game. Can’t let the ones who ghost or block you get you down. Keep DM’s to a small number of messages before deciding whether to ask for a date or not to avoid wasting time.

[Prof_Don]

I found my fiance (6 years together) on OKCupid; I was age 30 at the time.

So there is hope!

[slatyb]

That seems silly to me. I was successful dating online and married the last woman I met.

[daisydukeso]

i found my boyfriend on bumble, so maybe you are the problem

[MountAverage]

Nonsense. If it wasn't for online dating I would have never dated as much as I did. Two of my four relationships happened because of online dating. You don't know what you're talking about.

[Kiran_Yagami]

Online dating is for hook up artists. If that's what you want, knock yourself out. Don't expect anything substantial to come from it, though.

[es20490446e]

What's sexier: texting, or having a date?

[Dr-Zarnish]

I can not trust online

[suzzieQ]

So true