To start this off, I'm not saying it doesn't ever work, but why I'm against it. I do find online friendships a positive, but a totally different dynamic.
The biggest reason I'm against is because I've experienced pheromones and that can only be accomplished from meeting in person. Pheromones carry information on physical compatibility, a woman with more compatibility will have more attractive pheromones. They are odorless but found in natural human scent. Because of this pictures are almost useless, you might as well as ask me to evaluate a painting or sculpture. I've only felt strong pheromonal attraction for six women. There were twenty others where I felt something, but not nearly as strong. The last woman I had feelings for, if you told me her career choice and a picture of her, I wouldn't have guessed I would have responded so strongly. That is because the body doesn't consider the things the mind or soul does. All I knew is my body wanted hers and the feeling was mutual. However, you can't get that feeling from a picture of the internet. Some women look very pretty, but that is the mind, not the body. Without meeting in person you'll never know how your bodies feel about each other.
This feeling has no substitute and the agony of expecting it and not finding it is my biggest gripe with online dating. I've done the old ways, my neighbors set me up with a woman. I got to know her as a friend over the Summer, but the feeling wasn't there. She was in a related field and looked pretty, but the feeling wasn't there. On paper she would look favorable, but in person I felt nothing. The difference between meeting her and online dating, I was introduced to her by my neighbors and it was more natural. She was staying with my neighbors and I was introduced to her as I regularly visited them.
So in closing, I am against online because it doesn't include pheromones and is inherently artificial. I have enough women in my natural environments I have no need for an artificial one, especially since it can include scams or hurt people too invested. My preference for new relationships is Church, then work (colleagues not customers), then College, and then the wild. Meeting in natural environments works out better for all those involved and leads to less confusion and conflict. For that reason, I'm out.
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Online Dating isn't "Dating someone online"
Online Dating is a way to meet someone over the internet so that you can meet up in person.
Tinder, Match, Bumble are all apps you can use to meet someone... talk to them.. then schedule a meetup!
Some of them do, especially the foreign sites. It is still lacking the mechanics for actual dating. Simply using the internet and online dating are not the same either. You could develop a friendship and later decide to meet, but that doesn't allow for biological attraction. Everything is out of sync this way. They are just a picture and words online, may not be their picture or even their words. So dating this way is a big no from me.
That is what we call a PEN PAL and many people have these crazy so called "Relationships" online only. So yeah nobody should be doing that!
It is being prescribed and carried out by a lot of people these days. However, getting to know someone online and later deciding to meet as friends is one thing, but expecting things to work out or that you'll be physically attracted isn't the reality I've seen. The last woman I had a relationship with, if you showed me her picture before meeting her I would have had no idea how attracted I'd be to her. Her picture looks appealing to me after meeting her, but by itself I wasn't attracted to. That's what you don't get from online, the pheromones. But you're right in saying the online only relationships are a joke.
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Online Dating is missing something very important! ↗
Yes, but you don't mention the pheromones. That is the biggest difference.
I do mention smell in the beginning because pheromones are not always detectible especially when someone wears perfume. The point is.. you rather meet someone in person. This is why when you meet someone online you make sure you schedule that first meeting sooner rather than later so you can have the chemistry meetup.
That's literally the reason I'm against. Meeting people offline it all happens simultaneously and you know right away. Pictures are a waste of time and you'll miss good opportunities. That is why I say no to it.
Yet I know people who met their spouse online. It's pretty much whatever works for you. Myself, I've pretty much given up on dating sites, and dating in general.
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