Online dating, turn off?

[Sam2021]

What is a turn off when online dating?

[JohnPrestwick]

Any editing on the photos, especially the tacky Snapchat filters.

Also, while there is nothing wrong with having an animal in your secondary photos, don't have one in your main photo.

Avoid being sexual as well. If you are male, it means you are desperate. If you are female, it means you are a fake account.

Online dating isn't for me, but those would be turn-offs if I did.

[Sam2021]

Yes dont take people with fake photos serious. Be respectful at all times men and women

[OlderAndWiser]

I am completely turned off by women who want to message forever without meeting in person.

[Sam2021]

They aren’t serious. It takes time to get to know each other but i think texting and calling at the start is important. Videocall also very important, than meetup. I would advise you to not invest too much time into a lady if you get the feeling she doesn’t want to meetup.

[OlderAndWiser]

I am in a committed relationship now, but my previous approach was to exchange a few DMs, then tell a lady that I am comfortable giving her my cell number and talking as soon as she feels ready for that. I don't pressure someone to move faster than they want. We have a few phone calls and then I say I am ready to meet face-to-face as soon as they are ready. Again, no pressure. Quite often, we are meeting between 7-14 days after the first DMs get exchanged. If they aren't ready for that within 2 weeks, I am already sending out DMs to other ladies.

[DaveJord]

Most my dates are with in, 2 to 4 days of linking on line. I had about ten or so in 3 months... but I am not in a committed relationship and they have been a wash. Only one lady I chatted for two weeks before meeting... that relationship lasted the longests... about two months 7 or 8 dates. So maybe your two week process works.

[Sam2021]

Sounds reasonable to me.

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[DaveJord]

1.) When they want to chat for two weeks before making a date.

2.) When they mention Jesus in their Bio.

3.) When they list out all their wishes and wants, do's and don'ts in a prospective match.

4.) They only have one crappy pic, or any pic of just their dog or cat. Don't post a pic you're not in.

5.) Cartoon kissy lips, glasses, stars hearts, and edited photos. We can tell your not really 35 grandma!

[Sam2021]

😑 so annoying

[Anno2]

Women are really picky. The women I get attention from in real life are more attractive than the women I get attention from online.

Not their fault they get more attention online but feels like I play a rigged game every time I visit a dating site.

[Sam2021]

Hmm if things work better for you in the real world out there that is great. I find covid times not making it any easier online.. you would think social distancing would bring people closer online.. and make them genuine, Nope.

[DaveJord]

I think women online can get easily distracted, most attractive women get twice as much if not three times as much attention from men, than men get from women. So chatting with a women online its like talking to a women in really life, with a constant stream of other guys walking up and tapping her on the shoulder and interrupting your conversation.

Sooner or later she thinks she's see a better option, or starts scruntizing you harder... because she might be able to do better. My challenge has been meeting some vibring, but not being able to get the commitment to get her to move off the apps all together and focus on a relationship.

[MCheetah]

This.

[DaveJord]

Total turn off my man... hate that.

[Sam2021]

Ladies and gentleman it dont matter. What matters is on the inside, the love and respect.

[Fireguy17]

way too many selfies, and those fish lip pictures.
Who ever thought that that was a great idea, but I'm older, so it might just be me.

[Sam2021]

No no I agree completely it is not done. You can tell what someone’s intentions are if their profile is a mess

[Cowboy6666]

annoying filters,
fake profiles
quick judging girls

[Sam2021]

totally

[Cowboy6666]

There might be few other things which I don't like too.

[Sam2021]

in todays world i still prefer in person over online

[Cowboy6666]

You are single currently?

[Anonymous]

Not working on issues because you can just choose to ignore the person and not reply them.

[Sam2021]

Yeah aka ghosting

[Opinion Owner]

Yup.

[ballweevil]

it isn't , just depends what you want to you want just to have fun or try to find someone for yourself, because most people is just try to have fun , it makes really difficult for real dating to happen

[Sam2021]

People that are put off by dating online are mostly the serious ones looking for a genuine partner

[ballweevil]

that is true, i felt that

[DaveJord]

I agree. But it also exhausting not finding women who are being honest about what they really won't from the relationship. Yes 90% will say they want a serious relationship some day and thats what they truly want eventually.

But they will not be honest about what kinda of relationship they want with you right now. Most guys even the ones who want serious relationships, just want to define what's going... so they know if its a friends with benefits thing or just hookups. That way they can keep looking while having fun with out risking a possible serious relationship with his now girl. But lady's seem to want to keep you on the hook while they decide... which leaves you hanging in limbo land. Then flake on you.

[okeydoke]

Being dishonest, not actually located where your profile says you are, not responding in a reasonable amount of time, and two word responses.

[Sam2021]

Basically confusing as hell aka Liar

[okeydoke]

Yeah, you’re not wrong.

[TheFlak38]

the idea of online dating in itself

[Sam2021]

It puts me off.. completely

[tatianamay]

Ghosting tbh

[Sam2021]

Yessss ughhh hate it! 😑

[tatianamay]

Right! And one word responses

[Sam2021]

Delete and block 👋🏼

[tatianamay]

Exactly! Thank you, next

[DaveJord]

Thats a good one... I flipping hate thbuild on. You ask something and they give a one word or line response that gives you nothing to comment or build on.

[EaterPeter]

Cat 🐈 fish 🐟 es

[Sam2021]

hate them

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!

[EaterPeter]

So do I.

[Anonymous]

Catfishing

[Sam2021]

You been catfished?