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Because they're not the ones who directly worked for it.

I did a poll: https://www.girlsaskguys.com/other/q2438381-do-you-agree-that-the-division-of-salary-in-the-average-divorce-of (Some people made some good points that the maternal earnings was inflated due to the fact that some of those jobs aren't equivalent because the actual jobs require education. So I'll accept 50/50 then.)

most men said that women's unpaid household labor should be discounted when it comes to divorce, and that each person should only keep what they directly earned.

which i think is currently the case. studies show that women get poorer after divorce and men get richer. https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2009/jan/25/divorce-women-research

the thing is, the woman's unpaid labor is what made it so that the husband didn't have to spend time doing housework & childcare, & thus gave him time and energy to do more of the paid labor (fathers make twice as much as childless men).

and don't say that the paid labor is way harder than the unpaid labor; studies show that stay-at-home mothers are more stressed than working parents. https://www.todaysparent.com/family/stay-at-home-parents-stressed-out/

when i was watching The Red Pill the other day, a feminist male professor said that when it comes to custody cases, "the man usually wasn't doing half the childcare anyway... so it wasn't equal to begin with, but after divorce, he wants equal rights?"

Cassie Jaye argued that the man did contribute to the childcare by being the one providing the house.

And that's a valid point, but if it's to be accepted, then so should be the woman's contribution to the material earnings during the marriage, and thus women should get half the assets/salary earned during the marriage.

yet most men seem to disagree with that, yet believe in equal custody after marriage, which is hypocritical.

This is really long so if you stick through, thanks.

This guy I met a few years ago recently messaged me on social media. We talked for like a week everyday all day and a few days in he asked me for a date and I said yes. Fast forward to the end of the week, we had our date. We went to lunch and a movie. It wasn't as awkward as I had imagined. Our conversation was good and a lot of our morals matched up. He kind of asked me if I wanted to do something else or bail if the date is going bad, and I said sure. So we decided to go to the movies. At the movies I started to get really awkward and I just felt uncomfortable. About half through the movie, we finally held hands. It was a little awkward but I didn't hate it, it was kind of sweet. Anyway after the movie we hugged and he said we'll do something again. And I kind of just nooded and smiled.

I honestly thought he is a great guy and he seemed like total marriage material. he's so smart and has his shit together.. But, I didn't feel very sexually attracted to him. I mean I did, but I felt that I would never have sex with him. And I feel like a terrible, superficial person for feeling like that.

So he later that same day texted me and asked if I wanted to go on second date but would understand if I didn't. So I rejected him in a polite way. And wished him well.

The problem is that I now wish I didn't reject him and would've given him another chance to see it any attraction would build.. I just didn't feel right after leaving the date. Like not how I should feel after a date. Like my mind is telling me he's great and I won't find another guy like him but my emotions are saying you know it wouldn't work out because of the attraction. I also feel like I'm not good enough for him, I felt intimidated.

Did I do the right thing? If I didn't, is there a way I could go back and unreject him? Or did I burn the bridge too bad? Or completely?
I know this was very long, so thanks if you stuck through.