So this is my first take, it's really what I should be doing instead of asking questions, because I already know what I need to know about both sexes. Sounds cocky, but at 30 and with the life I've lived I have seen it all.
WHAT IS A RELATIONSHIPS AND ARE YOU DOING IT RIGHT?
Relationship is the way two or more people/things are connected, we've long lost connection with anything but our electronic devices. A romantic relationship is one where both are connected emotionally, sexually and sometimes mentally. People nowadays are lacking the skills for any type of relationship and it's sad, but what seems to be prime interest of everyone is to form a romantic relationship in hopes of marriage.
It's funny to me when I get ridiculed on a site where people ask strangers questions like "how do I look?", or "how do you know when you have chemistry", as if anyone can know the chemistry you're experiencing. I am called a loser for being single at 30, and criticized for saying I chose to be alone, when I could have been married many times, without asking anyone's advise or lying about my number of partners, but I'm the loooser.
ARE YOU RELATIONSHIP MATERIAL?
If you need others on the internet to validate you, or you are not sure how you feel about yourself, or you struggle with what you bring to the table, you are not relationship material, go fix yourself. If you say things like "you're not good enough because you'd have a man", you are childish and clueless. 8 out of 10 relationships are sexless and loveless, how much more of a loser can you get than pretending to be happy, for the show of it?. If you're in a relationship and are online all the time, your relationship is obviously not doing its job, I am single so I can be here a lot. When I had relationships I was offline way more unless it was business.
AND NOW THE MEN, WHAT DO YOU OFFER AND DO YOU REALLY HAVE STANDARDS?
Even for marriageable girls, the number of unfit husbands is staggering, men get online to complain about lazy and selfish women, but praise desperate women who worship them. They know these girls are desperate for a reason and still encourage it. Every girl who obsess over having a man, has no energy for goals, self improvement, home management and motherhood, but she might get pregnant just to keep you around and unsure her financial benefits, this is why you still end up with bad sex, poorly raised kids and a dirty house no matter how she worships you.
Men do not know what they want and so I don't submit to them. I just made a comment defending my value, the women downvoted because they are bitter, it never occurred that maybe they should look at themselves, the men downvoted because they think it will shatter me, the same reason they play head games and show no appreciation should you give your precious self to them. Has it ever occurred to you that most men don't bring anything to the relationships either.
Men, just like my exes, you all talk about quality women, but do spiteful things to her because those same qualities intimidate you. I cook, clean, give bomb ass sex, funny as hell and look good fresh faced, make my own money, not lazy and give great moral support.....what do you offer?. Most of these men cannot list their qualities, so why should you believe them when they talk about how unmarriageable girls are?. You claim interest in only quality then go right back to defending lazy women, you know why? because many men are phony, timid and selfish, they expect but don't offer anything. This is the reason for their need to subjugate and spite good women, but it backfires. It is 2017, the only women who run to you, are the ones you deserve, I call them karma because they mirror you. They are not a reflection of the rest of us, and you can't shame me into marrying any of you, keep telling yourselves it's not you it's me... because something, something men are the peak achievement of a woman, peace! I'm out.