Meeting someone in person: If you are in school whether it be high school or college, you will meet girls either in classes or other activities. Whether it be sports, an honor society, something like that, there are plenty of opportunities. I prefer meeting girls this way because you get to know them without there being a pre-established status quo (in online dating, you and the person you match with already find each other attractive, are there to date, etc). I think in an ideal scenario you would want to be friends first with the girl and then let things develop naturally. Unfortunately this is hard to accomplish (since girls will put you in the friendzone so to speak), but if you are capable of doing it then good on you mate. I've had plenty of girls I've gotten to know that I kinda fell for after a while, and they didn't feel the same way unfortunately. But hey, that happens and I get that. It just sucks when it happens you know ALL THE TIME. There are some bad stories as well, but I'll just put one down to save you the trouble:
I met a girl in one of my classes, and we were project partners for a lab. We worked on the project together at each other's apartments, and even watched football together while we were working on a Google doc. She seemed great. We talked about watching a game together and I told her I'd get us snacks. She never showed up, never texted me. This was the week after we had finished our project. Saw her in class the next day and she totally ignored me. Out of nowhere, and for no reason whatsoever....those of you who ghost need to leave this planet (depends on the circumstances of course, but sometimes it's just egregious).
Online dating: THE WORST. On bumble you have unlimited swipes, but typically the attractive girls will never match with you and if they do they won't message you first. I've actually gone on a few dates on Tinder that have gone fantastic, and then after messaging back and forth with the girl for about a week leading up to the second date, she ghosts me out of nowhere. Everything was going swimmingly, just vanished into thin air never to be seen again. I had actually gone on two dates with one girl, and before the third date she ghosted me (we had been talking for almost a month, I'm still confused to this day, and still kind of upset since it's only been a couple of weeks since that happened). OkCupid is interesting, but again you can go on there and message 43253253552 girls that you want to date, and will be lucky to get any good conversations going. Doesn't matter if you look at her profile and come up with something thoughtful.
All in all, just all of the rejection and thinking that goes on is not worth whatever "love" or "sex" is. I've made it 22.5 years without sex or love of any kind, and have survived. I've been upset and disappointed at times, especially when I've gone on dates that have gone well that have gotten me really excited, and then I get ghosted. Not even rejected, but ghosted. I feel like I've explored every avenue. I'm about to graduate with a Master's and go onto the working world, still a virgin despite being in college for 4 years and supposedly having the easiest years to get laid behind me...I don't know. I never really cared about losing my virginity but the inability to be loved definitely hurts. Maybe I'm just ugly. I figured I'd finally just let myself vent about this somewhere. I don't know what to try anymore. I think I might be hopeless in this part of life and I just need to come to terms with it, as impossible as it seems. All of this ridiculous crap that has happened to me when I've really tried to date is giving me a sign that I'm just not good enough for it. I don't know why, but I'm just meant to be alone I guess.