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I’m in my late 30’s and for 10 months I've been dating a man that has been separated from his wife for 18 months now. My kids know him and he’s very cool with my two teen sons. When we first started dating we both agreed that neither one of us was looking for a serious relationship, but it just kind migrated that way over time. I know all his family and have spent time with them on many occasions. I haven’t met his teen kids yet though. We don’t go to church together because he still attends church where he and his wife attended when they were together and she still attends as well. He feels it wouldn't be right for him to bring his girlfriend to church while he’s still married and I agree. However, when I bring up what he’s doing about his marriage, he says he’ll deal with it in his own time.

We've discussed a possible future, but I don’t see how he can be serious if he isn't even ready to end his marriage. He asked me to be patient, but I decided recently to end things. I’m an attractive, financially stable spiritually grounded woman and have a great career that I love. I ended things because I feel like the other woman. He says I’m not but that’s how I feel. I ended things and told him to go get his life right and come find me when he can be a man who is proud to proclaim me as his girlfriend to any and everyone. He says he loves me and I’m not being understanding since I've been through a divorce myself. But I told him I know my worth, I love him but I loving him doesn't mean I should have to compromise my love for myself.

I’m asking for people’s opinion because since this didn't start out with the intentions of being more, am I wrong for, not being patient? If he could tell me he was definitely ending his marriage I would have stayed in the relationship. But I have self-esteem … And I just think if he really loves me and wants me in his life, then he’ll figure out his marriage and get his life in order to be with me…

Ok, here goes. I am a middle aged married woman with a husband that is nearly 10 years older than I am. Many years ago, I worked with a doctor (OB/GYN) when I was first married. He delivered our only child. He and my husband played baseball together back then too. I have continued to see him as a patient every year for my regular exams for 30 years now. We didn't see each other socially after I quit working as a nurse at the hospital where he practices. He is retiring and I had my last appointment recently. We talked for over an hour after my appointment (I was his last patient of the day) We discussed our children, what he was going to do now that he would no longer be working, and just generally catching up and talking about 'old times'. (He is recently widowed) The office staff was still there, so we weren't alone. As I was leaving, he said "Let me have a hug before you go and he came around the desk and hugged me tight... and before I knew what was happening, he kissed me square on the lips! I'd be lying if I said it was bad. He's a handsome man that has always been attractive and fun. At my age, I admit while I was surprised, I enjoyed it. In fact, I left his office with a smile on my face and feeling like a teenager, though I was saddened by the fact I'll probably not see him again. From the men out there, and women too, do you think it was anything other than just what it seemed to be at the time... a friend saying a sweet final goodbye to another long time friend? Honestly, the more I think about it, the more I wonder. And no, I haven't and I don't intend to tell my husband about it! But I'll certainly never forget it, because I had always wondered what it would be like! *S*