The "Perfect" Man
I have researched the subject of "The Perfect Man" for quite a while now and there are certain characteristics that woman look for in a man that they feel would make him the ideal partner. After scouring many sites and reading many, many articles on the subject I have found that there are five common characteristics of a perfect man, but the concerning thing is...these five "ideal traits" are also well known traits of what is now referred to as a sociopath.
Sociopaths are defined as a person with a personality disorder manifesting itself in extreme antisocial attitudes and behavior. Also previously known as a psychopath, a sociopath is a person suffering from chronic mental disorder with abnormal or violent social behavior.
Top 5 Traits Women Seek in Men
You may think you have it all figured out, but some of these things might surprise you. So, what are the top five traits that women are looking for in a man? Let's discuss that now:
1. He's Charming
Women want a man who is sweet, endearing, and says the right thing at the right time (i.e. a man who can charm the pants off them, their friends, and family). However, it is important to remember that charm is one of the most obvious traits of sociopaths.
While it is unfair and unrealistic to assume that every charming man is also a sociopath, it's wise to remember that this is a common characteristic. Sociopaths are able to change their vernacular quite easily depending on the person they are talking to.
Why do sociopaths feel the need to charm their way through life? Well, they do it to make their "target" feel at ease and respected, rather that disrespected if they felt they were being talked-down to. Simply put: being charming is the easiest way for a sociopath to build rapport with someone, so that they can gain their trust and manipulate them.
2. He Exhibits Confidence
We all want a man who is confident, who can walk up to us and start up a conversation because he just couldn't think of walking away without asking who we were. It's flattering right? Of course it is.
Well, the difference between a regular man who works up the confidence to approach a beautiful woman and say, "hello" and a sociopath, is that sociopaths are confident in everything that they do.
Unlike a man who has to work to be confident around a woman, sociopaths think they're smarter than everyone else, and because of that, they believe they can do whatever they want and get whatever they want.
Sociopaths show no signs of concern or worry, and they don't learn from consequences - making it easy to maintain that air of confidence.
3. He's a Good Listener, Not a Problem Solver
When women have a problem we just want to vent and let it all out; we want a man who will listen and provide emotional support, but not a man who tries to give us a list of practical and productive ways to "fix" the issue we're dealing with, which let's face it, the majority of men will do.
When you do find the man who is willing to sit down with you to listen, it may seem like you've finally found the sweetest guy ever who totally gets women... or you've found a sociopath.
A sociopath will listen to your problems without offering advice or suggesting the best course of action, but it's probably because he isn't thinking of a way to help you. A sociopath doesn't feel empathy or compassion, and the reason they can listen so well is because they just don't care, but you give them so much gratitude for not saying a word that they realize it's just another way to make you think they do. If it's not a problem for them, then it's not really a problem.
4. He Treats You Like You're Special
The romantic getaways, the surprise gifts, and the amazing way he makes you feel like no other woman exists, maybe you've found your soul-mate, or maybe you found yet another sociopath.
It's true that some men do make the extra effort to make a woman feel special and valued by buying the occasional gift or reserving the rooftop patio at your favorite restaurant for you anniversary, but how many even remember your anniversary?
To put it simply, a sociopath will use whatever means necessary, including showering you with romance, to manipulate you. If he's the guy who can give you what you want, then you would want to give him what he wants, right? That's a sociopath's logic, and don't be surprised if he brings up everything he's done for you when he wants something from you.
There is no such thing as a "selfless act" to a sociopath. Keep in mind that he probably treats every other woman that's out of your direct line of sight exactly the same way.
5. He's Ambitious
Now we've all heard of this, and yes it's great when you meet a man who is ambitious. The difference between healthy ambition and the ambition displayed by a sociopath is that a sociopath strives to be so ambitious to the point that they think their ambitions are more important than yours, or anyone else's.
If you ever ask a sociopath to realign his priorities to include your ambitions, you won't get far. You'll soon figure out the difference between a man with a healthy amount of ambition vs. a man (sociopath) who is willing to "crush" anyone who stands in their way.
The Most Important Thing to Remember
All sociopaths will lie to your face and when they are backed into a corner, because they don't know any other strategy. As crazy as it sounds, a sociopath will lie about being shot, even if they're bleeding out on the floor in front of you. To a sociopath, telling lies is so much easier than telling the truth.
Caution to the wise and happy travels to all.
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