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If you are the one who broke up the relationship

Are you trying to maintain a friendship to assuage your guilt over the break up? That's not a good reason to maintain a friendship.

How will your next partner feel about you spending time with the guy or girl who was sharing your bed last summer?

Don't you know your ex has some hope of eventually reuniting with you?

If you are the one who didn't want the break up

Be honest with yourself; aren't you wanting to hang on to this person in hopes of them realizing how much they miss you and need you in their life?

When you try to move forward, how should your new partner feel about the fact that you are still spending time with the guy or girl who was your sexual partner three months ago?

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To me, all of the above arguments make sense, but I have only once tried to maintain a friendship with a former girlfriend. I broke up because, after two years, she did not love me and was not a dedicated girlfriend and I did not want to waste the rest of my life on her. We had a tremendous span of common interests and we could have been good friends if we had not first been lovers. After a few months of seeing her just sporadically, I realized that I as trying to hang on to the hope that she would want me. I realized that what I was doing was pathetic and I simply let go of her.

Have you ever tried to be just platonic friends with a former friends with benefits, bf/gf. or spouse? How did it work for you?

I recently got back in touch with an old female friend of mine after living far away for a few years. I asked her about her city as a potential place to move. Always had feelings for her but she was with a guy for the last 7 years. Was always a strange friendship with her acting hot and cold all the time.

I was happy that when I asked about traffic in her city she gave me more information than I wanted to hype the place up. Even agreed to show me around if I made a trip. She oddly told me she hated dating out of the blue which I basically ignored and din't pry much into. She dated a guy during the summer so didn't talk to me much. I understood but it bothered me he was like me in uncomfortable ways.

Tried not to think about it but then I would see her mom of all people in my store. She even stops me once to talk about why I'm back in town. She talked to me for a long time, I had to walk away after 15 minutes being on the clock. Didn't know she even knew I moved. When the boy is out of the picture I get re-intouch with my friend who had changed her phone number (don't know if its related to the guy).

She's more bubbly this time giving me her work schedule, smiley faces, and telling me to tell her when I come down. Even admits her old boyfriend dragged her down (they never made sense) but because our relationship was always weird I continue only responding platonic and neutral, even tho I still like her, because I'd rather see her in person before throwing anything flirtatious her way. I didn't want to make my move to her city about her and get it in my head we'd be good frieds or more as I half-suspected she was just lonely working 7 day weeks between two jobs.

She suggested some date like actiivities for us to do if I went down but still haven't because of an awful work schedule and uncertainty over her. Now she doesn't talk to me at all after I got in my feelings and let it slip I still have feeling for her.