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Doing something out of spite means you're doing it with the intention of hurting somebody—it’s done out of anger, which is usually there because you feel you've been wronged in some way.

This doesn't necessarily have to be a "bad" thing. For example, pursuing a certain career because it went against your controlling parents' wishes (or because everybody said you weren't good enough), or cutting contact with a friend who abandoned you in a time of need, because you want them to feel what it's like to be abandoned.

Doing something out of love is, in many ways, the opposite of that: it means you're doing it with the intention of helping or pleasing somebody—it’s done out of care, which is usually there because you want the object of your affection in your life.

Likewise, this doesn’t necessarily have to be a “good” thing. For example, deliberately hurting someone else for your loved one’s benefit (e. g., throwing someone under the bus at work, so your girlfriend can get the promotion), or staying in a bad relationship because breaking up would hurt your children.


So, which one do you think is stronger?