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I like this guy well enough, but I feel like there's not much chemistry outside of in bed. After the first three or four dates, conversation has been scarce. It's hard to really talk to him. We've been dating for a couple months, and there's pleasantries and small talk, but he's so quiet and I feel like it's always up to me to keep things from getting awkward. It's like pulling teeth sometimes.

We'll do fun things, bowling, ice skating, chilling at a bar playing pool, hiking, and yet I hate to say it, but he's not very playful, exciting, or fun. Very little sense of humor, he's almost always serious. He leaves most things up to me to decide. It's like there's not much emotion in him, or he doesn't care, I don't know.

He did ask about us though, which surprised me. I thought for a while it wasn't going anywhere. He wants to get more serious though, as in be a couple. Given all of this though, I don't know if we'd be good together. Should I give it a chance anyway? Maybe we'll figure it out and he'll open up more later? I just want a connection and it's not there right now, and I'm worried it won't ever be.

The pluses are he's a good guy, really attractive, the sex is good, he's a gentleman, he listens, and he does make time for me.

Our attraction was instant. It's rare for me to be instantly attracted to a guy. He recently began working at a fast food spot on campus; I went to the spot a couple of times and the attraction was still strong. He seemed shy so I gave him my number and snapchat. He hit me up hours later and made plans. We hung out with two other people. Everything went well. I go home for a week and he would text me. We talked about seeing each other when I came back. So when I arrived and hit him up, he curved me. This was the beginning of a pattern. He would curve me then text the next day apologizing and make plans again, but then curve me. I've asked about it everytime and he said it's not me but he has mad shit going on, but he'll make time for me and that he lives close. Whenever I'd go to the food place, he'd see me and be all flirty. He'd tell me that he would see me but after being curved 3.5 times I obviously don't take him seriously. He actually does have mad shit going on but life can't stop cuz of it. The other day I thought we'd get to hangout but instead drove to his friends place to sit in the car while he stood outside and talked to me not even 15 mins. He mentioned something about me not wanting to be in a room full of guys... he may not have meant anything by it but I take that as him not wanting to be seen with me. (Side note: I used to be fat. Ugly duckling to beautiful swan story is my life. The guy that I was fucking during the ugly duckling part was extremely embarrassed of me). Our only interactions have been that one hang out, whenever I get food, and 15 mins outside my car. I'm super confused. If he's not interested why pretend to be? Also he is aware that Im around another month. So obviously I wasn't looking for anything serious. Which leaves me kinda offended. It makes me think he doesn't want me. I mean even dudes without cars (he's one of em) make effort to see a girl they are interested in. Is he even interested is the question or is he playing me?