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I dated a guy for 2 years and then I found out he had been cheating on me throughout the entire duration of our relationship. I left him in May and then I met a guy in July. I did not expect to be in a relationship so soon after such a devestating breakup.

My current guy is really sweet, loyal and House husband material, but he’s not romantic in any way. I have spoken to him and I’ve told him that I really appreciate all the little things he does such as my ironing, the cooking, cleaning etc but I wish he could be a little bit romantic once in a while. He doesn’t agree with my idea of romance, he thinks that gifting flowers, chocolates, fancy dinners are things that what couples in failing marriages do and there is no trace of me on his socia media. I hate to be the person who keeps tally but I think I’ve been very romantic; I managed to get hold of a rare copy of a book he’s been searching for years, I surprised him with concert tickets for a band he really wants to see and I bought him a pair of £200 earphones he has been eyeing up for months. Valentine’s Day is a silly commercial holiday but I was hoping for at least something but I got nothing! nada!

He lives just over an hour away via train, I travel every week/every couple of weeks to see him but all we ever do is stay at home with his mum, watch tv and occasionally go to the pub next door with his mum. I help babysit his niece and he sometimes leaves me at his home alone so he can go kickboxing for a couple of hours. I’ve been going through depression, I’ve only opened up to him once and he gossiped about my business to his mum so I haven’t been able to trust him with any other secrets.

Despite all of that I still really like him but a part of me feels like we’ve hit dead end because he’s not romantic. Should I dump him? Am I shallow for wanting gifts and fancy dinners once I a while?

I come from a traditional middle eastern background and frankly, I am sick of all the opportunities that are slipping through my fingers.

Opportunities such as relationships and pursuing something that I truly love.

I am nearly 30 and whenever I try to embark on a romantic relationship, or maybe have an argument with someone who disrespected me at church, I constantly get the worst verbal abuse you can imagine and I still get hit when I defend myself.

I feel that this is causing my lack of confidence and it's taking a toll on my mental health.

Yes, there is a differences between motherly and fatherly guidance and stern talk but I believe that my parents way of punishment is archaic and I constantly get threats that if I leave home without marriage, then all of my family members will be notified and I'll be disowned.

I have the means to live on my own and rent comfortably. Should I do this or wait a little bit until I can afford a house?