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I dated a guy for 2 years and then I found out he had been cheating on me throughout the entire duration of our relationship. I left him in May and then I met a guy in July. I did not expect to be in a relationship so soon after such a devestating breakup.

My current guy is really sweet, loyal and House husband material, but he’s not romantic in any way. I have spoken to him and I’ve told him that I really appreciate all the little things he does such as my ironing, the cooking, cleaning etc but I wish he could be a little bit romantic once in a while. He doesn’t agree with my idea of romance, he thinks that gifting flowers, chocolates, fancy dinners are things that what couples in failing marriages do and there is no trace of me on his socia media. I hate to be the person who keeps tally but I think I’ve been very romantic; I managed to get hold of a rare copy of a book he’s been searching for years, I surprised him with concert tickets for a band he really wants to see and I bought him a pair of £200 earphones he has been eyeing up for months. Valentine’s Day is a silly commercial holiday but I was hoping for at least something but I got nothing! nada!

He lives just over an hour away via train, I travel every week/every couple of weeks to see him but all we ever do is stay at home with his mum, watch tv and occasionally go to the pub next door with his mum. I help babysit his niece and he sometimes leaves me at his home alone so he can go kickboxing for a couple of hours. I’ve been going through depression, I’ve only opened up to him once and he gossiped about my business to his mum so I haven’t been able to trust him with any other secrets.

Despite all of that I still really like him but a part of me feels like we’ve hit dead end because he’s not romantic. Should I dump him? Am I shallow for wanting gifts and fancy dinners once I a while?

Being a very romantic person, I love writing short notes or cute messages like 'I love you' in the morning, cuddling, staring intensely into each other's eyes and just admiring how beautiful we look, taking long walks hand-in-hand, surprising him by little gifts, taking a shower together, doing little things for him (opening doors, ecettera), drinking juice in one glass-two straws method, ecettera very much.
How about you, people?

Do you think its important to spend money on your girl? Or do you think that makes you shallow?
In this day and age romance seems to have dimmed but then again we all have different ideas on what is romantic.

Does buying a gift make you romantic or shallow? What kinda guy are you? Is romance still alive?

It seems that we live in a fairly superficial society. Everyone wants to out do each other when it comes to romance. Who has the better boyfriend or girlfriend, who gets the most dates, blah blah blah.

I have this one friend whose boyfriend has a pretty good job. He buys her a lot of gifts and what not, though like for ME, that's never really how I've ever been. I don't particularly care for expensive gifts because I feel like I have to pay back the favor or something. AND I just don't like money being spent on me in general. But she likes it, it works for them, so good for them I guess?

But for ME, my boyfriend and I work at the same place, and so he does like a bunch of little sweet things for me a lot. I don't even think he really realizes he's doing them or how sweet he is. But like, heck, just today our supervisors were giving us candy (I still don't know why), my boyfriend grabbed my favorite kind of chocolate apparently, and then held onto it. Then later when I was working near him, suddenly something just pelted me on the chest, I look down, and there is chocolate, I look up to see who the flip just threw candy AT me, my boyfriend is just standing there grinning, he's the only one around. But think about that, he didn't even have to think about it when he decided he was going to do something nice.
For my friend, I can see why she likes the big things, it shows her dude really put a lot of thought into what would make her happy.
However I just like that my boyfriend is able to just automatically think "Oh, she would like this." When given a situation like that. I feel like it really shows how much he cares to think of me just like that.

POLL TIME: This is for both boys and girls, what do you prefer?