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Could use some advice…some background: I have been friends with benefits with a guy for 1.5 years now and we actually started dating about 4 months ago. It was about a month ago he started talking about us living together and wanting a long-term, exclusive relationship with me and I agreed. We are now bf/gf. However, over the course of our time together, we only typically see each other once or twice a month (with kids and work, it can be a challenge). Well, a couple weeks ago we spent the night together and talked more about us being exclusive and he told me he had “fallen for me” but was still too scared to use the “L” word. I told him I loved him. But now it feels like he is ignoring me or pulling back. He has barely contacted me, hasn’t asked to see me since, and his text responses are very short, like he's blowing me off. I know he has a lot of stuff going on in his life right now that is stressing him out (money, trying to get a promotion at work and relocate, etc.) but I feel like he is losing interest now that he “locked me down” and knows how I feel. Although he hasn’t given me any verbal reason to think this. I don’t want to doubt him and I feel like I should just act like everything is fine and until he tells me otherwise. I’ve already been in trouble for assuming things in the past about him, and I want to trust in what he has told me. I want to just act like I normally would by texting him (which really ends up only being once or twice a week) and making plans…but then everything I read about a guy pulling away says to let him and don’t contact him at all, to allow him that space and he will come snapping back at some point. Obviously I can’t do both. At this point I feel like I'm being played because his actions and words aren't matching up. I don't know what to do or how to act anymore.