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I realize that, for a more extreme example, a girl under similar circumstances to a Western male incel, could actually still land a boyfriend with some ease. What I mean is if she is in a cycle of depression, lack of motivation, lack of self esteem, and loneliness with very few irl friends, this doesn't seem to dramatically deter attraction from men as far as I know. I. e. men still tend to accept this potential side of female humanity should they encounter such. It may rather make a man feel good that he can help heal a woman from such a rut.

Prettiness is a huge factor though, but the vast, vast majority of women are not considered visually unattractive by men, unlike the other way around. Unfortunately, modern men and women don't prioritize virtue though, if we even care much for that at all outside the idea of, "committing to your goals", which doesn't even mean you're a good or ethical person. So despite the fact that most, most women can find a sexual partner almost instantly, they don't have faith that they can have a committed and substantive relationship that will go somewhere.

Yet with all that said, underneath all of our societal lack of virtue at least in the West, men are still both culturally and biologically driven to serve, help, and forge their lives with women.

But could women be leaving men hanging here, despite all the progress? Do women really care about their sexual partners/spouses/S. O.'s/and potential partners? Or is it almost exclusively about self interest, judging how "hot" his "masculine and/or fun personality" is, and of course how hot he looks?

Is a gentle, kind heart enough for a woman in the way that it is enough for a man? Please vote and explain your thoughts in the comments.