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Please I need help. If you have information about psychology, I need your opinion to help me analysis my character. Back in 2018 , I used to be in a relationship with a married man. I have never imagined myself to be in a relationship with a married man and I have always been against mistresses because I see them as a threat to family etc. So , I considered this married man as a friend only and nothing more but then we fell in love together , and many dramas happened from his wife’s side. I used to have mixed feelings toward his wife ( jealousy and also sympathy toward her ) . Then we broke up although we talked to each other from time to time. In 2020, I decided just to forget about him at all and I have been in a new relationship with a single young man who is my age, and I felt really guilty of what I did to my ex-boyfriend’s wife and I profoundly regretted. Then , my ex-married boyfriend came back again , and he said he missed me and he will never forget me , instead of being a great woman and learned just from the lesson because as I said I really regretted. I just like what he said to me and I didn’t block him or anything , in fact I said to him nice words too? . I don’t know what’s wrong with me and why I’m like that , at the same time , I feel jealous in my current relationship and I’m attracted to my boyfriend. Why am I like that?

I just notice that most of the time the girls with more desirable boyfriends (not just talking about looks here so men who treat them nicely and adore and seem to dote on them etc) seem to often be typical types who put a lot of effort into their fashion and hair etc
For example you see like most millionaires or high up business men with good jobs seem to go for arm candy you usually see them with your typical glammed up slim girl in heels,
What do you think?

(I'm obviously stereotyping with this question so i'm not saying in all cases was just wondering in general if my observations are incorrect and it would also be very debatable on what you consider "higher quality")