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This is a long story but;
My best friend is a serial dater, which I'm not mad about. As long as he's being safe I support him.
That said after 1 week of dating someone new they always want to meet me because as my friend says "I talk about you a lot so they want to get to know you." To which I say, thats nice but it's been a week, shouldn't they get to know YOU first?
Regardless I try to be a good friend and meet them anyway because I know he wants my opinion.
The real problem comes in when my friend inevitably gets bored or finds some fault with this man no longer than 2-3 months into dating him.
At that point since we did the whole try to get along because your dating my friend thing, almost every time he breaks up with someone, I get harassed by the hearts he's breaking.
I no longer accept friend requests on any platform from the guys he's dating but despite that they still try to message me asking about my friends feelings.
I will readily admit only about 50% of the time do I believe my friend has a legit reason for ending the relationship, so it does make him an asshole and I get them wanting answers more than "it's just not working out"
My question is am I a bad friend for asking that he dates them at least a month before involving me? Is there a better time frame? Or is this a hopeless cause regardless of timing because my friend is great in so many ways but dating isn't one of them?

My mom lately keeps questioning me all the time - where I go, whom I really see, etc... has even gone as far as threatening me to kick me out of the house and to “stay wherever it is that I stay “ when I’m not home...

she passionatley hates my ex boyfriend for no good reason... she thinks the guy abused me which isn’t true just because this other girl messaged her saying bad stuff about the guy which were not true at all... she also went as far as prohibiting me from leaving the house for 2 while months cuz she didn’t want me going to see him

so due to all this I’ve been seeing him in secret and have had no choice but to tell her that I have been seeing an old friend of mine whom she knows from years ago - but I’m really seeing my ex because me and him still love each other...

my mom was the cause of us breaking up - she was saying bad stuff to him that I’m slow and can’t take care of myself and that I can’t handle finances, etc... she was saying things to get him to change mind about me and she caused us to fight and break up at one point...

so what’s my moms problem and why should I do?

Regardless of how it went down. It could have been on good or bad terms. Also, explain why!

For me, I always had a personal rule that I delete everything, even if we ended on good terms. I don`t feel the need to keep up with their lives, and I don`t want them to be updated on mine. It mostly to be able to move on quicker, but also because it speeds up the process of moving on.