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Misandry is undeniably everywhere in the media. Smart women, dumb men. The eye rolling, the jokes, the shaming, the put downs are everywhere. Society's laws are skewed in womens' favor especially the family laws.

Masculine values such as stoicism and reticence are under fire. In fact, masculinity is hardly ever associated with anything good! Male instincts are suppressed from childhood these days. WE ALL KNOW that men have become far more feminine in the last 20-30 years. And as we know women sexually dislike these men, unless they are playing the masculine gender role. 80% of western men today are below the mark for women according to a recent survey.

It's not a stretch to say that things are going too far. Male suicides are up 70% in the past 10 years. Men are falling behind in school and the workplace. Studies have shown that today's men are far lazier... could it be a reaction to the culture? I think so. Men receive less healthcare and DV/rape support.

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In short, the attitude is "The Woman has been put down for thousands of years, so now let's put the Man down for a change". Is it justified?

Throughout my life there have been numerous occasions where I'd hear about some suicide, whether on the News, from someone I know in my town, or on the internet. And I've noticed a rather disturbing trend. First of all, most suicides I've known of were due to either loneliness, relationship issues, or a breakup. The only two exceptions I've seen are someone killing themselves after committing murder, and someone killing themselves because they had a stroke and could not stand life anymore. But anyway, onto the main topic of this question..

Whenever a girl killed herself, everyone felt sorry for her, and was quick to blame her boyfriend, father, or some other man for her death. One teenage girl in a town not far away from here set herself on fire because a boy broke up with her, and basically everyone had a big pity party for her, while talking about how horrible her boyfriend is.

However, when the genders swap roles, and a man kills himself because of a woman, he is vilified, and portrayed as some kind of psychopath. Why? To make the woman feel better? No one ever questions exactly how much bullshit these women gave these men to make them kill themselves. My friend's ex-girlfriend got with another guy after she left him, and after a few weeks that guy blew his brains out. I know from experience she was a physically abusive and mentally unstable person. Yet I'm sure anyone who heard about that incident would have assured her it wasn't her fault.

Anyway, I am sick of this mentality that women are always the victims, and men are always the oppressors. Even when a woman drives a man past the brink of sanity, and he shoots or hangs himself, she's still the victim somehow. I've seen so many women abuse kids and grown men in my life. I've seen men be abusive to kids and women too, of course, but the difference is those men were ostracized by society, and/or punished. Women on the other hand seem to be getting a free pass to abuse people. And it needs to stop.

I don't understand why people need to assert their self-worth and their "congruence with their gender and self-identity" via 'acting more womanly' and/or 'being more manly'.

Technically, if you were born with XX chromosomes with proper genes and stuff, you're female. If you were born with XY chromosomes with proper genes and stuff, you're male.

No matter what you do, you're still the sex that you were born with.

So why care about how your behavior is perceived by some archaic cultural imperatives, when you can be who you want to be? Why assert your self-worth through broken concepts, why resort to the division of social genders, and why enforce behavior patterns on children to "brainwash them" into being "proper Men/Women"?

This whole idea is silly to me. The reason why I ask this question is based on the notion that "a guy must be taller than a girl, so that the girl feels properly feminine". Why? What does even feeling "feminine" mean? Congruence with social standards? Why can't you be who you are? Why can't you just thrive to be the best person you can be, no matter how "masculine" or "feminine" that is perceived?

I think this notion makes us be held down and bogged down in a series of traditions, rather than properly progress as people.

Check out this site:
www.plannedparenthood.org/.../...dentity-26530.htm

"Gender roles are the way people act, what they do and say, to express being a girl or a boy, a woman or a man. These characteristics are shaped by society."

"Feminine traits are ways of behaving that our culture usually associates with being a girl or woman."

"What Are Gender Stereotypes?
A stereotype is a widely accepted judgment or bias regarding a person or group — even though it is overly simplified.[...] This is called sexism."

People should be who they are. Act like they naturally would. Be the best they can. Not be bogged down by silly concepts , broken ones.