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To sum it up, I told my friend I liked him on the train. He simply said "okay". That crushed me and I cried that night. For the next two weeks, we went along as if nothing happened - until one day on the train, he casually mentioned that I told him I liked him. I thought he was going to go somewhere with that, but he just went on to talking about something else. I was so confused so later that night, I told him to give me a straightforward answer. Apparently, he wanted to just be friends and didn't think he reacted negatively. I'm not going to lie, I cried again. Anyways, because I was being emotional, I asked him why. It took him two days to drop me a message telling me it was because he had a preference for lighter skinned girls. I was genuinely shocked at his message (mainly because I didn't think me being black would be a problem for him since he and his parents both grew up in the most diverse neighborhood in town), so I waited a day to reply back. I told him that I found it disappointing that race was such a significant factor for him and that it's okay for him to have a preference, but it is and will always be a dick move to tell someone that their skin colour is the problem. I pretty much ended our friendship there. Earlier in the week, he's been giving me sad glances and I'm guessing he's been trying to find the opportunity to talk to me, but I honestly didn't want anything to do with him. I've caught him staring at me on occasions, but after a while, if I was anywhere near him, he refused to look up at me. One of my closest guy friend has been telling me to talk to him, because he thinks maybe his religion (Mormon) is the reason he rejected me, but I can't see anything positive coming out of it. I feel like there's a 98% chance he's going to try to explain why I wasn't good enough for him and then end up hurting me again. Should I take the risk and message him or just continue ignoring him?

This girl and I have been friends for 9 years. We area both 21 and live at home. She knows my entire family. They have mixed opinions on her especially my parents. My parents are never mean to her though, and try to help her if she needs it. We have got in 3 major blowouts in the past, which resulted in us not talking to each other for several months at a time and blocking/changing numbers. Anyways, I try to hang out with my friend at least once a week but she currently does not have a job and her parents stopped giving her money so I’m having to pay for whatever we do that’s why I limit it to once a week unless she wants to take walks which are free. Recently, I started talking to a guy on a dating app and we hung out a bunch and I’m talking to him everyday and call him my boyfriend, I’ve known him for a month. I think my friend is jealous. She’s a pretty blonde girl and guys stare at her in public but she gives them Death looks and then they approach me. I decline. My friend wanted to go to a club tomorrow night but it’s in a bad part of town so I said no. I suggested going to the derby with my aunt and boyfriend and she yelled at me because she knows I have a family reunion on Saturday so I’ll see my aunt then and I care about my boyfriend more than her and she tried to call me but I had to end the call to talk to my boyfriend and she’s like I’m glad our 9 year friendship means nothing to you and I need to get my priorities right and I’m rude af. She’s also been persistent texting me but I was on a date earlier and she went off on me. I told her to try the dating apps and she doesn’t have any luck because she says all guys want is a quick lay or they stop talking to her and yadda yadda. She wants to go to this bar tomorrow night (we were supposed to go to the club) and I said I will see because I plan on going to the derby and she flipped out. And anytime I text or call my boyfriend when she’s around she gets all bitchy towards me and I have to walk away.