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With everything I read on here... I'm actually really surprised at the responses in regards to trust issues. It's as if you bring up the insecurity, they'll turn into a conversation about their entitlements... telling you that they deserve privacy (which people do), and then paint you out to be insecure (which you are), or maybe even controlling when you just want to feel better.

BUT... with infidelity occurring at an over 50% rate in marriage (according to most studies I've read) , I think it's only right to alleviate your partners anxiety when they are having trust issues. It's okay to be insecure once in a while. It's okay to have trust issues once in a while. In monogamy, attraction will happen outside of your partner. Whether it's a coworker, or platonic friend. These things are bound to happen in a long term relationship, so my suggestion is to be with someone who empathizes with you when these problems come up. Someone who actually wants to help you feel better instead of attacking you for it and making you feel lesser for it.

My girlfriend and I have both experienced some trust issues with each other in the beginning considering we've both been cheated on at one point. I opened up all of my social media with her and gave her the pass-code to my phone. Granted, she didn't even look- but I wanted to let her know I had absolutely nothing to hide... and she doesn't have to worry. I genuinely wanted her to feel more relax and less anxious about the idea of committing into a long-term relationship. She wanted the same. We're both in such a better spot today. We worked through it together, and I feel as if most couples should operate in this way.

It's strange to me that the default solution on GAG to this problem is to demonize your partner and suggest to leave them. Anyone else here feel the same?

I'll give an explanation of each option:

Hard theistic believer: You believe in a theistic god. You believe God created all things word for word as it says in the Bible or other holy book such as the Quran. This god closely monitors the actions and thoughts or all people and in turn decides who shall be rewarded and who shall be punished for their sin. This god chooses which children get cancer, whose dog dies on their birthday, whose house gets broken into, whose wife cheats on her husband, who wins the Superbowl etc. You get offended at the very idea anyone would dare question the existence of God to the point where you may become physically violent.

Mild theisitic believer: You believe the Bible isn't correct word for word and feel that it should only be taken in certain contexts and that there is a great deal of misinterpretation but you believe God still intervenes in people's lives.

Deistic believer: You believe God to be a great mathematician and ultimate engineer who set up the universe to explode into life exactly as it has but doesn't do anything after that. In other words you believe God made the universe but the Bible, Quran etc are not relevant.

Agnostic leaning towards belief in God. You are undecided and not religious but you feel it is most likely the universe was created by god.

Agnostic leaning towards an existence with no god. You are still not 100% certain but you feel it's much more likely that God doesn't exist and we are yet to discover mind blowing things about existence. Pretty much as atheist as one can rationally be. (This is where I sit)

Hard Atheist: You have 100% certainty there is no god at all and that it is simply an impossibility.