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Here's the case. My friend's have been in contact with someone from socmed and that guy reveal his desire to be with her just after few days. He's much older than us, lives overseas, and apparently he is a widower with a son. Once, he told my friend that he want to establish a business and he need to married local people in order to do that. My friend already explain that she's not thinking about marriage yet and that they better just be friends, but the guy is still insist chasing on her and text her.

Later on, he still send some crazy messages about his ambition to my friend. I then told her to just say that she never intended to marry a widower (especially with a child), but she and my other friend said that it is too harsh and might hurt him. Is that true?
That's when this question come up in my mind and I want to know what other's responses to this matter too.

They had sex for one time in 2007 after my fiance attempted suicide for his ex. According to him he was too week physically and total activity of the intercourse lasted only for 3 to 4 minutes. I don't know if it is possible or not. But I have now way to verify it.

His ex ended the relation in 2010. When my fiance cam abroad for PhD in 2012, he used to focus on his PhD only. But his ex used to text him after few months to know about his status. He used to reply but never initiated conversation from his side. According to him he does not have any feeling but he used to reply her to understand why she was contacting him. Then she asked his phone number and talked to him around 20 times in 5 years (according to my fiance). Then the girl got married in early 2017 and she informed him about the marriage.

My fiance finished his PhD in the end of 2017 and added his ex name in the PhD thesis as acknowledgement. When I asked him why did you add her name as you don't have feeling for her; he replied that he does not have any feeling for her, but she was in his life for a certain time, that's why he added her name along with all other friends' names and family members' names.

The girl contacted him even after she got married but he did not replied. Even she contacted him few months ago, but he did not reply as the girl is now married and he did not want to ruin her married life.

I added this details to explain what he explained to me. Please give you opinion and let me understand and take a wise decision. I want a happy married life with no worries. I want to trust my soulmate.