Search Results: is my boyfriend gay

Zuri is 21 years old and a wedding planner. Zuri's cousin Zack is about to get married to her best friend Maria. Zuri is fully aware that her cousin Zack is cheating on Maria, but Zuri keeps her mouth shut because Zack threatened to expose her deepest darkest secret.

Elle is 23 years old. Her best friend Joe is gay. Joe's boyfriend Randy is bi. Elle gets pregnant by Randy.

I've been with him for nearly 2 years
And I know he's into Asian girls a lot
All his 3 ex girlfriends are Asians

So anyways, he has 2 jobs now
First job as an assistant
And second job as a 'security'
I was supposed to see him few days ago
But he said he was too tired from work all day and night
So I said its fine.

So today, we decided to see each other
I came over to his place
Then when he was in the shower, his phone buzzed
It was a message from his phone carrier
So I went back to all his messages

Then I saw a message from an unknown number from few days ago
And it was from an old guy
He sent a picture of himself
And it was blown conversation with him and my boyfriend

This was the conversation:
Old guy - hey sexy, do you like my picture? Lets have some fun tonight
Boyfriend - hey so do you like crossdressers?
Old guy - yes
Boyfriend - me and my friend will come tonight. Do u have the hotel ready?
Old guy - yes just come and dress up at mine
Boyfriend - ok
Old guy - I can't wait to fuck you

And then boyfriend didn't reply

I confronted my boyfriend when he got out of the shower and I started crying:
Me - what the fuck is this? ARE YOU GAY?
Him - what the f is that? I dont know how I got those messages
Me - DUDE. Its your phone!
Him - I dont know how I got them? Its not for me.. I dont know this guy
Me - this is fuckin disgusting.. I dont know what to believe
Him - I can't believe you think Im gay...

I dont know what to believe?
What the fck?

To everyone, lgbt, not lgbt, wherever.
Why is gender such a big deal, do you agree that it is? or isn't

there's something I must be missing because I treat everyone equally and get weird looks and boys girlfreinds get shitty with me for "being nice to there boyfriends" apparently this equals "flirting"
But okay than.

And if we really want gender equality like men can be feminine, women can be masculine.. than why do we have so many people that feel they were born in the wrong body...
is it like you are implying girls MUST wear makeup to be a true girl
and boys must be masculine to be a true boy?
Whats so bad about someone born male at a young age wishing to wear dresses and makeup.. but not identifying as gay or a transgirl?

Why does society think personalities equal gender? and why do people in general think this way about the genders.

not tryna offend but this whole gender sht confuses me because I act masculine a lot, sometimes feminine but rarely.. but I'm super shy.. and straight.. but REALLY masculine and everyone thinks im transboy.. or demiboy but honestly Idrc for genders
oh well
--if TLDR
than just answer the question