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1. When a guy ask me out I assume he wants more
2. I get defensive quick, my first thought is cheating, failure or abandonment
3. I can talk openly and have deep conversation, but if a guy shows interest in a romantic way I freeze and run away I avoid conversation about it
4. Too scared to be sexual, cause I caught feelings for my friends with benefits and he didn’t want me in a romantic way (I am celibate because of it. Have been for years).
5. I am loving, witty, caring and open.
6. I love dates, but I don’t want to date I just want the guy I am supposed to be with sent from the heavens. And not do the work behind finding “the one”.
7. I can be unavailable emotionally and cold
8. Don’t like PDA or getting physical with anyone.
I love being single, love my freedom but I get lonely more often than I can count on two hands. And everyone around me are in love (friends and family). I am happy for them but I often look at my hopeless situation.
7. I feel bitterness towards men
8. I haven’t had the best experience with men. I have been sexually harassed/raped, my dad cheats on my mom all the time since I was a little girl, my first boyfriend left me for someone else, was in a abusing situation and my friends with benefits hurt my feelings.
9. Reading and hearing about men doing women wrong makes me explode even more, especially dating today and how gross we treat each other.

I am ready to shake it all off and start trusting again. I have been single for four years. I can’t keep up with this sad love life. I have used my free time on myself and I have found my passion (self discovery). I am not ready to fully commitment yet even if I miss the intimacy the most (I am still young, and enjoying life), but I am done being mad at men. They deserve better and so does my soul.

Advice?

Last night I had a dream where I woke up this morning and covered in sweat and had to catch my breath.. this is what happened in the dream :
My boyfriend and I were laying down and I was asking him about cheating and when we were talking he said" baby u know I would " then he paused " never cheat on you " I said i hope you promised that etc... Well David ( my boyfriend friend ) I was asking how he was and asking if my boyfriend was breaking up with me.. and he was shaking his head and crying and saying yes I looked at my boyfriend and I asked him if that is true he looked at me and said yes he was just using me.. so I am thinking wtf I asked him why when I was crying. Boyfriend said "because you don't watch , you are bad at kissing , making love , and etc.. and I just wanna used you for sex and yes I did cheat on you "
While crying David comes around and chokes the shit out of my. Boyfriend and kills him and drags him away.. I was packing and getting ready to leave I could go and stay at my friend house. Next thing I know I saw my boyfriend back alive again and he was whistling and cleaning and he also said that my brothers are killed. 😭😢☹🙁😞😔😕
So that is the end of the dream... but my boyfriend has been but awsome to me he saved Me , he takes great care of me , he loves me for who I am and so much more 😀
But omg why in the hell would I have that dream? 🤔
I gotta say of all of the dreams I had this is far more scarriest