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Ok... So... Lets start here... My boyfriend and I have non stop been going at it over this.

I am a bisexual female that has always had more male friends than female... Always was permiscuis when i was younger, but remember bisexual...

He is totally freaking out stating that my friends calling or texting in the middle of the night is disrespectful to our relationship but can't give me a good reason... Other than it is disrespectful. So... I asked him these three questions and his only answer is... Because its disrespectful... Can any one answer this for me and make me understand why and also why would it be ok for a girl and not a guy if that's the case...

If my friend calls me because they are bored, at 1 am and I am still awake doing nothing but scrolling fb... What is the harm in talking to them?

Same scene except my boyfriend and I are watching a movie... If I know my boundaries and say something... Hey I'll hit you up tomorrow me and my man are watching a movie.. Where is the disrespect...

Same scene except this time they say... Hey baby girl what you doing I miss you... blah blah... And I tell them look... You don't need to be calling me any more I gotta a man... Where is the disrespect...

Is it a trust issue or possibly a control thing or is he correct?

We got into a bad argument a couple months ago after a weird period of us being really distant from each other, and he admitted to being so frustrated he thought about hitting up other girls, but never did. And since then he's been talking to this girl he knows 24/7. I'm not exaggerating when I say there is a notification that she messaged him every time I get a glimpse of his phone. But whenever I told him about how uncomfortable it made me he told me I was being selfish and paranoid and that she needed help because she's struggling with all these different problems and so on, and would continue texting her constantly. I had kept noticing the past two months or so, whenever he'd hand me his phone for whatever reason he'd always delete their DMs before handing it to me. And last night I had finally had enough of that and called him out. I was more mad that he thought I was actually stupid enough not to notice him do that so often then I was about him talking to her. And he kept listing excuse after excuse and kept saying he wasn't lying since they weren't doing anything and I have no reason to be mad and blah blah blah. But he is STILL talking to this chick non stop. And it really bothers me that he uses him knowing her from school (for less of a time than I knew him) as an excuse and will completely ignore my discomfort. I understand he's gonna have female friends and talk to them, I have male friends. But I don't understand why I'm in the wrong for being uncomfortable with him repeatedly crossing the boundaries of my comfort. He claims I'm violating his free will but I'm not asking him to drop communication entirely. I just want him to be mindful of how I feel and take that into consideration before going out of his way to start a conversation every day.