How do I tell my Boyfriend his best friend is trying to hook up with me?

[Anonymous]

His best friend has been trying to hook up with me through texts. He claimed he was drunk. Everytime he is drunk now, he will try to flirt with me and try to have sex with me.
I don't know how to tell my boyfriend. I fear he will think I am a slut. And he will definitely have his friend's back. I dont wanna cause any problem between his friends. But his friend isn't the first to hit on me. His other friend has slapped my ass. And I've told my boyfriend about this before. I don't know how that went about.
Its so confusing how my boyfriend doesn't get angry when his friends pull these slick sex innuendo, flirting and texts towards me.
Is my boyfriend really trying to show me something I am too blind to see?
Both of his friends that hit on me, are married! I would never flirt back or sex text back! I know to stay away and stay silent. But should I tell his friend I am uncomfortable around his friends now.
I feel like my boyfriend turns a blind eye when he sees his friends flirt with me. Even when i told him about the texts. I dont reply. I really want to stop hanging around his friends. But he is always hanging out with them. I don't know what to do anymore.
Help!!!

[Cherokeehp]

I’ve been in this exact situation before. I had a boyfriend and I was friends with his best friend. It was actually his best friend that introduced me to my boyfriend. Almost as soon as he and I started dating his best friend start texting me. We were friends but he never texted me before. It started out innocent but then he mentioned that one of his older relatives was letting him use their apartment for him to have sex. He then invited me to have a threesome with him and another girl. I told my boyfriend and he did nothing. So I dumped him.

[Asker]

I don't know why the "boyfriend" does nothing! That's what I wanna know! Why!
Men are confusing when it comes to being silent about these things!

[Cherokeehp]

Cause he values his friendship with his best friend over your feelings.

[Asker]

I know that already. And it's sad. I would never put my friend before my relationship boyfriend.
But to each its own.
I hope this means the end of us and I hope he sees that I was genuine and loyal

[Barbaric]

Tell him and show him the texts. If he does nothing about it and just lets his guy friends do what they want, either he doesn't care about you or he's too pussy to say anything to them. In which case you should get rid of him.

Also remember that birds of a feather flock together. You can tell a lot about a person by looking at their friends. If they're like that, and he sees no issue with it, he's most likely just the same.

[Asker]

You may be so right!
I agree. He may be doing the same or too pussy. I can see it now.

[Asker]

I showed him the texts. I trusted he would handle it correctly. But I haven't asked what outcome has came when he asked. I dont have time to wait on his answers if he didn't say anything.

[Jamie05rhs]

Show him the texts. If he doesn't respond appropriately, you may need to reconsider the relationship.

[Asker]

I have shown him the texts. He has been there to see me get hit on sexually and flirtingly by his best friend.
He doesn't say anything or do anything.

[Asker]

I have been told to get rid of him many times.
But he keeps telling me he loves me very much.

[Jamie05rhs]

Of course he tells you that.

[Asker]

I know he will choose his friends over me. I guess this relationship really is doomed

[Asker]

Its jus sad boys go out this way

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes, it is sad. I agree.

[Asker]

I don't know what to do about this anymore.

[Jamie05rhs]

I know what you mean. But I think that's telling you something, right?

[Asker]

Yeah. My boyfriend is very weird. He wants to share me. He doesn't care about me. He basically wants to pimp me out. He's all about money. I can't believe this shit

[Jamie05rhs]

If I were you I wouldn't tolerate that.

[Asker]

I left him before. He said he missed me and regretted it. But he's starting to transition back to his old ways and worst now

[Jamie05rhs]

I think this time you should leave him permanently.

[Asker]

But I love him. I don't know how to leave him

[Jamie05rhs]

I know you love him. But he doesn't care about you in the same way that you care about him.

[Asker]

So true. Our Christmas gifts this year, he only got me one item. And my item was more expensive.

[Jamie05rhs]

Hmm.

[SHREYASH007]

If you were my girlfriend, I would never tolerate such behaviour from my friends how close they maybe , doesn't matter.
So, talk to him clearly about it.
Will he dare to slap those friend's wives assess or flirt with them (talking about your boyfriend)?
if he is allowing them to get close to you doesn't it mean that you are not considered for wife in future or I would say serious relationship.

[Asker]

He's only showed me his jealous side once. I don't know if he thinks he is super good looking to where he dont need to be jealous or act out if someone flirted with me.
He doesn't flirt or smacks other ppls wife or girlfriend ass.
I think he prefers to be doing all that to someone else who is single.
I dont wanna be anyone's wife right now.
Our relationship is pretty serious but I rethink it all bcos he isn't doing anything when men flirt with me.

[virgin20]

You just go put and tell him. Be honest and say you don't like it and ask him to make the friend stop. Honesty is the best thing in this situation.

[Asker]

Honesty is key yes! I don't know how to approach him.

[virgin20]

I'd just be straight and say "look your friend is making me feel uncomfortable by flirting with me a lot. I don't know how to make him stop, can you talk to him for me please?"

[Asker]

I've tried that

[Asker]

My boyfriend says to be nice and just ignore the dude so no drama can happen

[virgin20]

Can you block the friend on social media if he continues? Or talk directly to him saying it's inappropriate to flirt with you. You can't let him get to you, make yourself comfortable no matter who stands in the way

[Asker]

His friend is married, so he can't have social media. So I can't even block him. I can only block his texts. When I see this friend, we're never alone enough for me to tell him seriously to leave me tf alone. I can joke and say it nicely to him. I hope he gets the picture

[virgin20]

He's married? Wtf. If it really gets to you, go to his wife, he shouldn't be cheating (flirting purposely is cheating to me)

[Asker]

His wife doesn't like me. She's a total bitch. So I've never really friended her either.
She would really hate me.

[virgin20]

It gets worse😂
Best thing is ignore the friend and focus on you and your boyfriend

[Asker]

She's done some bad gossip about me recently too. So I was told to ignore her and be nice. And. She's pregnant. Very high risk as well.
I dont want any part in her miserable marriage and cause any harm to her pregnancy.
Such bad whammy isn't it.

[Asker]

Oh yeah. It gets way worst haha

[Anonymous]

Pretty simple you stupid fuck. You tell him. It rock science. Even a stupid ass like your self can do that.

[Asker]

If I told him, 51% he won't do anything about it. And I wonder why he won't

[Yourman89]

Why would you be a slut if you ignore them?

[Asker]

Im just saying he would think im a slut, if I didn't say anything either.

[Yourman89]

I see. I dont think so. If he isn't gonna make a big deal about it, he must be okay with it

[Asker]

Surely he's okay with it. But if I wanted to respond and flirt back, I know im the only bad guy in the situation. It's damn if I do, damned if I don't.

[Yourman89]

Fuck it then.. flirt back. Its his fault

[Asker]

But I respect him like a human. Its his ignoring these things from his friends that make me want to grab his attention and this kind of way might hurt me

[Yourman89]

I think anyway will now.. might be the time to dip..

[Asker]

How do I grab my bfs attention without being slutty

[Yourman89]

Maybe try being slutty with him?

[Asker]

I have. Im only slutty for him.

[Asker]

Slutty works?

[Yourman89]

It should.. but it hasn't? Follow me?

[Asker]

Slutty works. But it only works after he's gone and away from his friend's presence.
Following!

[Yourman89]

Good girl! I told you! Your following me?